Is stubbornness a good or bad thing?

Kylta

I can be stubborn especially when it comes to principled issues.

But since being stubborn is in my nature. I feel i've lost a lot in life over it.

So your opinion is stubborness a good or bad thing.

colm_mcm

Yes

Smee_Again

I think that like any personality trait if the person isn’t able to control the stubbornness then it’s a bad thing.

Snails pace

It can be useful sometimes if your trying to get your point across about something important. If your stubborn over little things like food, tv or music then no.

Trigger Happy

It's ok to be stubborn and admirable at times. But to be stubborn to the point of cutting off your nose despite your face is dumb.

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Once you understand which battles are worth fighting in life, and which battles are just a pointless waste of your time...

I seen someone recently sitting in their car in a carpark for almost 30 mins... they were stubbornly waiting for someone to come out and free up a space. Rather than go and park somewhere else probably slightly further away from the entrance.

That sort of stubborness with little everyday things, will just waste so much of time in life. And probably make you a very frustrated person too. You would really have to question what sort of boring person can dig their heels in over such insignificant things... like who has the patience for such trivial stuff?

maestroamado

Kylta wrote: »

I can be stubborn especially when it comes to principled issues.

But since being stubborn is in my nature. I feel i've lost a lot in life over it.

So your opinion is stubborness a good or bad thing.

"STANDARDS" is more than a singly word, it's about who you are...

Tig98

Im stubborn but not arrogant.

I'm generally mild mannered and very easy going, just go with the flow. If someone is obtuse or adamant about something I don't agree with I will stand my ground, I wont back down until they do.
This is usually in situations where people lie about something that has happened.

Dravokivich

I wouldn't lose sleep over it. Being stubborn tends to occur, when others are wrong, pushing their own viewpoint and not willing to look at the circumstances people find themselves in.

Church on Tuesday

"Stubborn" is just a fairly glib term coined by less determined people to describe those people who are unrelenting and focused.

Being determined is nothing but a positive quality in this life, being petty about small things, not so much.

chrissb8

Have/had a friend who is so stubborn he's ruined every friendship around him. All through small issues or even non issues, but never willing to meet halfway with the other party to resolve issues and willing to go to pretty bad depths to "win" these fictitious battles in his head. Just drew his line in the sand and that was it.

Sometimes they weren't even issues. Just who was right about an innocuous fact and somehow, he would amp it up and make it this competitive thing where ego was on the line.....it got odd and pointed towards a character of me vs the world.

Stubbornness is a bad enough trait to have. But like anger, assertiveness etc. you need a bit to get by. But too much, as pointed above leads to just getting in your own way.

Strumms

Knowing when to apply stubbornness is key. There are times in life where you absolutely have to be stubborn, inflexible and when you have to dig your heals in, to protect yourself, your interests and the same of those close to you.

The saying.. “give them an inch and they’ll take a mile” has actually been in use for centuries. With good reason... because with some people human nature is to have more then they are entitled to from others...be it in....

Work life, personal/romantic life, social/friends, sports team... wherever... some people are just wired to want more then they are due, if that means somebody else suffers and looses out, that’s ok to them.

On one or two occasions I found out the hard way, learned my lesson, back around May though when an acquaintance from the sports club I’m involved in tried to corner me into providing media assistance which I wasn’t comfortable with and refused, I had let’s say ‘the rug’ pulled from underneath me. I’ve still turned up, done what I needed to do, smiled, participated, good attitude but you can seee THIS attitude I have of ‘keeping on’ is not going down well.. gone from being very friendly, the odd interaction outside the gym, to a sort of blanket blankness, fûck em though... got to look out for and look after yourself and your wellbeing and interests, nobody else will.

Hulk Hands

It's a horrible emotion when it's applied in relationships with other people.

People who are stubborn to the point of ignoring logic are impossible to deal with

Stubbornly standing by an important principle is usually a good thing. Stubbornly refusing to admit you're wrong about something you know you're wrong about, that's a bad thing.

People who make their minds up and stubbornly refuse to consider any evidence that might change it, that's a very frustrating trait. Intransigence is hard to live with.

It's not a great trait, to be honest. It's hard on the people you love or live with if you're an obstinate sort.

Quantum Erasure

I'm not stubborn, I'm right

blackbox

Stubbornness is a behaviour, not a characteristic.

A mature adult can choose either to be stubborn or not to be stubborn as is appropriate to the situation.

maestroamado

Hulk Hands wrote: »

It's a horrible emotion when it's applied in relationships with other people.

People who are stubborn to the point of ignoring logic are impossible to deal with

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