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Struggling the last week

  • 25-06-2020 12:26pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 7


    Hi all.

    I've found the last few weeks so tough. In the last week alone I had an accident that resulted in 5 stitches, was made redundant & a close family member was diagnosed with cancer. They live abroad & it's breaking my heart I can't be there for them.

    I'm also pregnant with my first child & I haven't seen my siblings or some of my friends since the start lock down. I'm just finding it so tough .

    I'm also scared about being made redundant because I won't get my mat leave now & I'm scared about not being able to provide for my child.

    I really miss my family & friends and I'm just struggling with everything.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 130 ✭✭hi!


    ZiggyDean wrote: »
    Hi all.

    I've found the last few weeks so tough. In the last week alone I had an accident that resulted in 5 stitches, was made redundant & a close family member was diagnosed with cancer. They live abroad & it's breaking my heart I can't be there for them.

    I'm also pregnant with my first child & I haven't seen my siblings or some of my friends since the start lock down. I'm just finding it so tough .

    I'm also scared about being made redundant because I won't get my mat leave now & I'm scared about not being able to provide for my child.

    I really miss my family & friends and I'm just struggling with everything.

    That sounds like you’ve been through a lot. The isolation isn’t helping either. Is it possible to meet up with friends or family or even talk online?
    Sorry to hear about your job :( have you applied for the state maternity benefit?


  • Registered Users Posts: 15,457 ✭✭✭✭Kylta


    The restrictions are easyingrt up tomorrow so you should be able to get out to see family and friends. I would recommend you set up some sort of support group with family and friends for yourself especially if the lockdown was reintroduced. Most friends I know are connected to family through wats app or other social media platforms.


  • Registered Users Posts: 375 ✭✭Warbeastrior


    Sorry to hear about your struggles OP. Thats a lot of stress to hit ya at once.
    The thing about stress is that it has to be given the chance to move out of our system. So don't be beating yourself up. It's key that you're good to yourself. In order for the stress to leave us we have to not fight it and let it move out on its own. The key to do this is to do things that you enjoy and make you feel good. So maybe a nice walk, a video chat with family members (maybe organise a games night through zoom) put on a face of make up and take some selfies, watch one of your favourite movies etc etc and just remember that absolutely nothing comes your way that you can't handle. Look after yourself and your bump and you'll look back very soon and think about how you came through this rough patch.

    And don't ever be afraid to ask for help, tell your family how you're feeling, talk to your GP, email Samaritans/Aware (You find have to be very bad to talk to them) and there are loads of mother support groups on online.
    Take care


  • Registered Users Posts: 312 ✭✭MrsBean


    A lot of stresses coming all at once for you OP, no wonder you feel you're struggling, anyone would!

    Prioritise yours and your baby's health and wellbeing right now. Start treating yourself with kindness and don't stop. Have a bath, meditate, binge your favourite comedy to take your mind off things, make sure you're getting enough sleep. It's ok to be selfish, ask for help. It's normal to feel anxious and worried at a time like this. Maybe join an expecting mothers group? There are loads online if you have a look. There are a million questions and worries when you're having your first child so something like that could help support you.

    Is there a sibling or friend you trust that you could text and arrange to have a call or a cup of tea with to discuss all that's gone on? I know it's an old saying but a problem shared is a problem halved. It will help you to feel less alone in dealing with your feelings and worries.

    All the best to you OP.


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