Why do people post pictures of their children on Facebook?

Derdwerker

I don’t get it. Having a kid isn’t an achievement. You’ve managed to do exactly what you’re biologically driven to do. I shouldn’t have to look at a dribbling potato every time I log on.

Tacitus Kilgore

Well it would be weird if they were posting pics of other peoples kids like

Feisar

I doubt you'd know from my FB page that I've a toddler.

Church on Tuesday

It's for attention, a lot of that type were neglected as kids growing up.

JohnnyFlash

They think people care.

Feisar

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

It's for attention, a lot of that type were neglected as kids growing up.

That rings really true when I think about it.

Mr. CooL ICE

Derdwerker wrote: »

Having a kid isn’t an achievement

Having a kid is like having a trophy that says "I had sex at least once"

Meeoow

I have un followed anyone who posts pictures of their kids, or what they cooked for their dinner.

Church on Tuesday

Feisar wrote: »

That rings really true when I think about it.

I've a friend who is like this. I've basically unfollowed her on FB because every other post is of her kids, who are great kids and she's a great mother and person too, but it's overkill. She had a tricky time growing up and was adopted.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Meeoow wrote: »

I have un followed anyone who posts pictures of their kids, or what they cooked for their dinner.

I do the same.

Once someone is a new parent I'm waiting for the baby photos to start flooding my wall, then they're gone.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Bet you wouldn’t refer to anybody’s child as a dribbling potato to them in person though.

Sheep Shagger

To share with long distance friends and relatives perhaps?

Spot the people who don't have kids on this thread lol.

Like everything on line, if you don't like it then keep scrolling (or unfollow the person) instead of getting offended.

lawred2

Derdwerker wrote: »

I don’t get it. Having a kid isn’t an achievement. You’ve managed to do exactly what you’re biologically driven to do. I shouldn’t have to look at a dribbling potato every time I log on.

so everything posted on social media should be an achievement of sorts? Not just that - just fit into your definition of what an "achievement" is!

I only use twitter myself so can't really comment as to the marketing void that is Facebook - but what sort of posts do you deem acceptable?

What do you post yourself that you think is so interesting to others?

JupiterKid

I have a couple of FB friends who do a bit of this, but not too much. They might put a pic up of their little sprog’s birthday party or the obligatory holiday snaps.

Doesn’t really bother me all that much but it can signify insecurity or feeling the need to show off. But I shouldn’t have to feel pressured into “liking” or commenting on their kiddie pics either.

One friend in particular (she is also a friend in real life) used to post up loads of pics on her FB page of her son. Admittedly he’s a cute and polite, well-behaved kid, and I think that she did it because she had a very difficult time conceiving after she was married and then miscarried twice before giving birth to him. She doesn’t really do it anywhere near as much as she used to.

I think if I had children of my own, I would keep the FB posts and pics of them to an absolute minimum - for the reasons of respecting the boundaries of private family time and their privacy and not to be portraying myself as an overly insecure parent who felt the need to share every waking moment of my children’s lives.

Hector Savage

Narcissism ...

biko

Isn't this something you should ask on Facebook?

whisky_galore

Using your kid or grandkid's pic as your profile pic is a bit weird.

It's like I don't want you to know what I look like, but I'm ok with putting a pic of a minor for strangers to look at out there.

Church on Tuesday

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I've a friend who is like this. I've basically unfollowed her on FB because every other post is of her kids, who are great kids and she's a great mother and person too, but it's overkill. She had a tricky time growing up and was adopted.

You can have a tricky time growing up and be adopted and have experienced emotional and/or physical neglect and not be an 'attention seeker'.

bitofabind

Derdwerker wrote: »

I don’t get it. Having a kid isn’t an achievement. You’ve managed to do exactly what you’re biologically driven to do. I shouldn’t have to look at a dribbling potato every time I log on.

Having a face isn't an achievement either, doesn't stop people from posting incessant selfies. Newsflash people do annoying things on social media.

Derdwerker

bitofabind wrote: »

Having a face isn't an achievement either, doesn't stop people from posting incessant selfies. Newsflash people do annoying things on social media.

You’re preaching to the choir here buddy

Better Than Christ

"He's getting big!"

"Big and bold"

I see it a lot on Facebook. I can't say it bothers me, unless they're doing it all the time. Like it or not, some people are interested in how their friends' and family's kids are getting on. Not everyone's a misanthrope.

Das Reich

Its worse really people posting pictures of holidays trying to show that they are richier and happier that what they really are. I see no problem people posting pictures of their children I even like yo see my relatives growing and see how they are.

MOH

Das Reich wrote: »

Its worse really people posting pictures of holidays trying to show that they are richier and happier that what they really are. I see no problem people posting pictures of their children I even like yo see my relatives growing and see how they are.

Next time they post a picture on holiday go and rob their house while you know they're away. Then they'll be neither richer nor happier, and you might get some useful stuff.

Problem solved!

Irishphotodesk

Derdwerker wrote: »

I don’t get it. Having a kid isn’t an achievement. You’ve managed to do exactly what you’re biologically driven to do. I shouldn’t have to look at a dribbling potato every time I log on.

After going through multiple forms of IVF ...for my family and I ...having a child is an achievement, it’s something that would not have been possible naturally and has cost us tens of thousands and multiple attempts.

Why do people post on boards about issues they have with Facebook/Twitter ? Why not post of the platform which the problem exists and see if a solution can be found on that platform, can you give the rest of us an insight into if you have posted this “problem” on Facebook? And if not...why not?

bluefinger

Im happy for people to post things that make them happy rather than half baked conspiracy theories and ill-informed political rants tbh.

JupiterKid

Of course, with gay men it tends to be photos of their precious pets...lol

ArnoldJRimmer

I live abroad, so seeing this doesn't bother me in the slightest in moderation. FB is there for people to post updates of their life, and that includes pictures of their kids, and its nice to see how my friends and family are getting on

If its excessive, and I have seen this in the past, I'll unfollow/ unfriend. A lady I used to work with was posting daily pictures of her kids clearly just looking for likes, and to the point where I felt very sorry for her kids as every single day of their lives was being documented online. So I just unfollowed. She then unfriended me so a good result for all. Similarly, if people wont shut the fcuk up with their political views or tedious 'slagging' about Man U/ Liverpool, I'll do similar. The good things about social media is that you can pick and choose what you consume

Derdwerker

Irishphotodesk wrote: »

Why do people post on boards about issues they have with Facebook/Twitter ? Why not post of the platform which the problem exists and see if a solution can be found on that platform, can you give the rest of us an insight into if you have posted this “problem” on Facebook? And if not...why not?

Because boards.ie is anonymous. If I posted this on Facebook, I’d be set upon by rabid mothers like hogs to a pile of slop. I’m not a brave man.

Derdwerker

ArnoldJRimmer wrote: »

I live abroad, so seeing this doesn't bother me in the slightest in moderation. FB is there for people to post updates of their life, and that includes pictures of their kids, and its nice to see how my friends and family are getting on

If its excessive, and I have seen this in the past, I'll unfollow/ unfriend. A lady I used to work with was posting daily pictures of her kids clearly just looking for likes, and to the point where I felt very sorry for her kids as every single day of their lives was being documented online. So I just unfollowed. She then unfriended me so a good result for all. Similarly, if people wont shut the fcuk up with their political views or tedious 'slagging' about Man U/ Liverpool, I'll do similar. The good things about social media is that you can pick and choose what you consume

Look I’ve no problem with people posting “first day of school” or “born healthy” photo’s. My gripe is people expecting me to give a toss about how cute their kid looks in a sailors outfit. It clogs up my newsfeed.

Mr_Muffin

Why does anyone put anything on Facebook? Attention.

Cienciano

Derdwerker wrote: »

I don’t get it. Having a kid isn’t an achievement. You’ve managed to do exactly what you’re biologically driven to do. I shouldn’t have to look at a dribbling potato every time I log on.

Because it's social media and people are being social.

People need to start realizing facebook is a load of bollocks and delete their account or unfriend people if it's upsetting them so much

Gregor Samsa

Derdwerker wrote: »

Look I’ve no problem with people posting “first day of school” or “born healthy” photo’s. My gripe is people expecting me to give a toss about how cute their kid looks in a sailors outfit. It clogs up my newsfeed.

Have any of your friends really posted a picture of their kids in a sailors outfit? Enough times to clog up your newsfeed? Are a significant number of your FB friends from either proud nautical families, or the parents of Japanese anime characters?

Church on Tuesday

Deleted User wrote: »

You can have a tricky time growing up and be adopted and have experienced emotional and/or physical neglect and not be an 'attention seeker'.

It depends on the person. A lot of people who have had a difficult childhood tend to live a bit through their children hence the oversharing on social media.

Since lots of families separated by distance keep in touch via Facebook, I'd assume it's often to share family pictures with members of extended family.

I'm sure people use their kids for attention, and I'm sure loads more are just keeping up with members of the family. If the sight of a dribbling potato offends anyone, the option is always there to look at something else.

I have a baby, there are no pictures of him on Facebook, purely because I think his presence on social media is for him to determine and he may not appreciate his parents deciding to flood the internet with his image without his informed permission. I've no idea how the net will evolve, I'd rather err on the side of caution.

KaneToad

Why do grown adults write messages to their deceased parents on FB...

r93kaey5p2izun

I think it's completely inappropriate in regards to the child's privacy. I will never understand it. It doesn't annoy me at all to see or read the comments and updates. But why they think it's ok is beyond me.

TuringBot47

Derdwerker wrote: »

My gripe is people expecting me to give a toss about how cute their kid looks in a sailors outfit.

I'm sure your facebook acquaintances don't expect any reaction from you personally.

The average facebook user won't segment their friends into groups and just post to distinct subgroups of family friendly people.

In the same way, I'm sure people don't want to see blurry photos of you in the pub.

KaneToad

KaneToad wrote: »

Why do grown adults write messages to their deceased parents on FB...

Or post public messages of how much they love their partner...

MOH

KaneToad wrote: »

Or post public messages of how much they love their partner...

Or reply to themselves on Boards when nobody else does?

KaneToad

MOH wrote: »

Or reply to themselves on Boards when nobody else does?

Yeah! Imagine doing that.