Judge or misjudge somebody

Kylta

Have you ever been misjudged be a person or people before you have actually met them?

Some characters in life would have a name that might go before them ( psycho, nutball, Messer, scumbag etc) but when you actually meet them their not the person who their moniker says they are.

And i'm curious I have given some people stick and slagged them on boards. But i'm curious to know even though your maybe miles away and behind a keyboard, if someone gives you stick does it have the same effect as if someone was standing in front of you.

And has anybody been judge on a first impression that was bad only to end up good friends afterwards?

Interesting thread. Could have also posted this thread myself but have'nt got round to it.

Irish People. In the read world they seem okay on the surface.

I've stopped going to a shoe shop because I was harshly judged by the owner (not related to buying shoes but she judged me in a distressing situation which I won't go into here on boards and don't PM me)

When I was small I was quite judgemental. Could'nt do that in Secondary school or college.

Yes, Irish people can be very judgemental. Recall another situation where a former work colleague had left the jobs years but still resented very personally another team member. Again, won't go into further detail.

Church on Tuesday

Yes to both. It's human nature to judge someone on the first meeting, that's why it's important always to make a good first impression.

Some people turned out to be better than I originally had them down for, most sadly where just what I had suspected.

Strumms

Generally no. I found in life that I have developed a very good radar for picking up on lowlifes, scumbags and untrustworthy people... so I always trust my instinct 100% of the time. It doesn’t let me down. I never go ‘looking’ for faults in people but if the alarm starts ringing I’m paying attention to it.

In a job I had, I remember early on there was a colleague who not many people liked, he was an old timer, bit of a doddery enough harmless type, or so I thought...

I had a bit of an issue that if he wasn’t happy with something he’d be off moaning to colleagues and management, he’d never just talk one on one. He disliked me because I’d not give him the ear. If he wanted to talk about Carol, my reply was.. “ did you take it up with Carol ? No ? Ok go do that “

People disliked that he was like this, but he got a hall pass..you know, a bit old, odd, eccentric etc... a sick child yadda yadda

One night he sent an email to management, complaining about myself and another colleague but he copied in the team by accident. He was complaining that we were not doing our fair share... I spent some time producing reports, documented sign offs on tasks for three months that proved that I was doing 18% more of the work on the shift than he was. He’d also been swiping back late from lunch on about 1 out of every 6 shifts.

What he wanted was, even though I was a more effective and efficient employee as were most of the staff he’d want me to help him finish his work even though he’s on a deliberate go slow to achieve this... if he finished before me the odd time, he was straight down to the canteen, even when I was a newbie and might have appreciated a dig out or some guidance...

Some of the other employees were.. ahhh Keith is great, sure always makes the tea etc...

Always when it relates to people... trust your gut ! It rarely if ever let’s you down. Go with your instinct, protect yourself and don’t be influenced by outside noise, go with your gut.

buried

Yeah, always trust your intuition when it comes to meeting people. It's rarely ever wrong.

The worst type of absolute utter f**king trouble making people are the ones who will just try to judge you and label you before you even get the chance to meet them. This sort of yoke will never change his/her mindset about you because they had the egotistical gall to do it before they even met you and they won't be proven wrong.

These sort of people, when you meet them first yourself, you can sense it.

Mad_maxx

you have to review the character of people as you go along , some people are good at deception