Sex therapist

Moragle

I'm wondering if this is a thing in Ireland. Me and my husband had a great sex life until he got sick with a virus last year which turned into pneumonia and ended up with him in hospital for a fortnight and it took him a lot longer to get back on his feet. His sex drive after basically disappeared and he spoke to the gp about it who said it was a result of the illness and things did improve.
But in the last two months its totally disappeared again to the point that for two weeks last month he couldn't "perform", that passed but he says he has no interest in it at the moment.
His gp is only seeing emergency patients at the moment but its something that we want to get sorted out. So I'm just wondering, I've heard of sex therapists but is this a thing here and If so has anyone used one with success.
Just to be clear, I mean a counselor who specializes in sexual issues, not like an escort type service.
Thanks for any help anyone can offer

Augme

Does he have an interest in getting it back and seeing a sex therapist?

Moragle

Augme wrote: »

Does he have an interest in getting it back and seeing a sex therapist?

Yes, like I said he discussed it with his gp last year but the gp is only seeing emergency cases at the moment

radiotrickster

Haven’t gone to one but sex therapists are definitely a thing here. Most, if not all, therapists have at least one speciality so depending on where you are in the country, you might even find a good few to choose between. Best of luck!

Truthvader

Dedicated sex therapist in Holles Street

Jenneke87

Maybe give it some time. I knew that after an illness I had when I was around 25, sex was the last thing on my mind. It took a good two years before things were as before. I think people can vastly underestimate the effects of illness and stress on one's sex drive, it can really really mess with you in ways you didn't expect it to.

Moragle

Jenneke87 wrote: »

Maybe give it some time. I knew that after an illness I had when I was around 25, sex was the last thing on my mind. It took a good two years before things were as before. I think people can vastly underestimate the effects of illness and stress on one's sex drive, it can really really mess with you in ways you didn't expect it to.

Thanks, this probably is the reason and the uncertainty of life at the moment and the stress that causes probably is contributing. Appreciate all the replies

Augme

If he is keen to solve the problem I'd actually be reluctant to visit a sex therapist as it seems a bit unnecessary in this case. Everything was fine before hand and now the illnwss has has an impact. I'd put it done the illness having the effect.

I'm not sure if he exercises or anything be that might be a good place to start to get the energy levels up too. Also if he is stress it can be great way of reliving stress if sex isn't another option of doing it.

cannotlogin

I think the situation needs more empathy rather than rushing him off to a sex therapist. It seems like a fairly drastic action for a man who clearly has been impacted by an illness and I'm not sure it will do much for his confidence either.

I'm sure you are understandably frustrated but this is clearly linked to his illness as confirmed by his gp, who is also probably the best placed to help him.

We are also experiencing a global pandemic, his problem could be compounded by stress, worry about family, finances etc. It may be extra worry about his health given how linked covid19 is to pneumonia too. Maybe take the focus off it for a while, maintain intimacy in other ways and let him go back to his doctor again in the next few weeks.