Will he come back?

barbiegirl123

So my friend broke up with her bf about a week ago due to lack of effort on his part, she asked would he want to be friends with benefits and he said yeah and they agreed to keep contact but then he went on tinder and started ignoring her. She unfriended him on snapchat but they still have each other on Whatsapp etc.. Do ye think he will come back to her eventually?

DrGreenThumb82

It depends on who has the colour TV and collection of Bob Marley.

Odyssey 2005

We'd need to see pics of her to give an honest opinion.

cj maxx

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

So my friend broke up with her bf about a week ago due to lack of effort on his part, she asked would he want to be friends with benefits and he said yeah and they agreed to keep contact but then he went on tinder and started ignoring her. She unfriended him on snapchat but they still have each other on Whatsapp etc.. Do ye think he will come back to her eventually?

Sounds like he didn't have to put much effort into it , so nah he's long gone

colm_mcm

You have to intervene. This sounds like a modern day Romeo and Juliet or other romance of that nature.

TuringBot47

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

Do ye think he will come back to her eventually?

So she dumped him...
Probably not, or only when he's drunk and horny.
But never for a "relationship".

Risingshadoo

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

So my friend broke up with her bf about a week ago due to lack of effort on his part, she asked would he want to be friends with benefits and he said yeah and they agreed to keep contact but then he went on tinder and started ignoring her. She unfriended him on snapchat but they still have each other on Whatsapp etc.. Do ye think he will come back to her eventually?

"So my friend "...yeah..yeah....yeah. go on dear,.we all know it's you.

Jurgen Klopp

While this is AH I think it's better tell your friend if she's not happy with him then break up for good instead of "dumping" hoping it would get him to change cause this is what sounds like she's doing.

Not only that but dumping a lad that obviously wasn't bothered with her but then chasing him to offer FWB is the dream for him why would he want to come back?

barbiegirl123

I also forgot to mention that they were going out for 8 months and she used to be very happy in the relationship for the first 3 months but then he didn’t put in as much effort. i want to give her an honest answer when she asks me do i think he will come back but i never know what to say

Rodney Bathgate

She seems a bit desperate with the FWB thing.

Sounds like,it has just run its course/pettered out tbh

Jurgen Klopp

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

I also forgot to mention that they were going out for 8 months and she used to be very happy in the relationship for the first 3 months but then he didn’t put in as much effort. i want to give her an honest answer when she asks me do i think he will come back but i never know what to say

He's not coming back to you bar the ride.

He wasn't bothered with you, so you dumped him and then offered him sex on tap with friends with benefits.

He also gets to ride and see other girls too now after being dumped, he's living the dream he's not coming back

Trigger Happy

The honest answer is no chance. If he was not putting that much effort in its because he was not really that in to her.
So her dumping him and then offering FWB is hardly going to swing things her way.

barbiegirl123

I would rather myself if they had nothing to do with each other but she thinks that she won’t find anyone else. he has treated her very bad. he cancelled on her one night to spend time with his friends, she also saw him in a pub one night and went over to him and he turned his back to her and started talking to his friends instead

Dtp1979

Was is the stress of studying for the leaving Cert that caused the lack of effort? Poor chap probably didn’t want to feel like a piece of meat

barbiegirl123

Dtp1979 wrote: »

Was is the stress of studying for the leaving Cert that caused the lack of effort? Poor chap probably didn’t want to feel like a piece of meat

no, he is done his first year of college

GarIT

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

no, he is done his first year of college

He's probably feeling he is a bit too old for secondary school girls then.

Alrigghtythen

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

So my friend broke up with her bf about a week ago due to lack of effort on his part, she asked would he want to be friends with benefits and he said yeah and they agreed to keep contact but then he went on tinder and started ignoring her. She unfriended him on snapchat but they still have each other on Whatsapp etc.. Do ye think he will come back to her eventually?

She dumped him, why would he?

biko

Drop him, sounds like a loser

ChikiChiki

Dumping and then offering friends with benefits is a bit of a desperate move. And now he has the best of all worlds and is probably laughing with his mates about it.

Chalk it down as an early life lesson. Move on OP, don't be a doormat.

Diemos

Can anyone explain the actual logic here?
She dumps him, then gets mortally offended that he won't talk to her and wants to move on.

So what was it is a stupid immature **** test where he was supposed to grovel & proclaim his undying love that back fired?
Or she dumped him and now that he's gone she's changed her mind?
Or is she just scared of being alone, in which case she needs a shrink not a boyfriend.
She should have monkey branched before dumping him if she is that insecure.

Words fail me.
I hope for his sake he keeps well away from future cat lady.
Although sticking your dcik in crazy is usually fun.

NSAman

Sounds like the only way to get him back is to get the cosmetic surgery, massive boobs and win the lottery and wave a cheque in front of him!

Jurgen Klopp

Diemos wrote: »

Can anyone explain the actual logic here?
She dumps him, then gets mortally offended that he won't talk to her and wants to move on.

So what was it is a stupid immature **** test where he was supposed to grovel & proclaim his undying love that back fired?
Or she dumped him and now that he's gone she's changed her mind?
Or is she just scared of being alone, in which case she needs a shrink not a boyfriend.
She should have monkey branched before dumping him if she is that insecure.

Words fail me.
I hope for his sake he keeps well away from future cat lady.
Although sticking your dcik in crazy is usually fun.

To me it sounds like she thought dumping him would "give him a wake up call"

Well it has and he's enjoying a cold one after pounding Becky from Tinder and deciding of he'll call round to the OP for a little extra later on :cool:

Alrigghtythen

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

I would rather myself if they had nothing to do with each other but she thinks that she won’t find anyone else. he has treated her very bad. he cancelled on her one night to spend time with his friends, she also saw him in a pub one night and went over to him and he turned his back to her and started talking to his friends instead

Was this the same night? Did he go out with his friends and she just happened to pop up in the same pub?

barbiegirl123

Alrigghtythen wrote: »

Was this the same night? Did he go out with his friends and she just happened to pop up in the same pub?

no this was at xmas

TBH -This is not even worth the effort involved.

Whatever might have been there is gone. Close the book, move on.

Bio Mech

Look your real name isn’t barbiegirl123 anyway. Just admit it was you. Let the truth heal you.

Stop chasing him and move on

kowloon

I have 70 head of cattle and road frontage. Just saying.

Alrigghtythen

https://youtu.be/pSywtiAirKE

Jonybgud

Out the gap when he looses interes....

Ficheall

Have you tried lighting a candle for them, OP?

TuringBot47

barbiegirl123 wrote: »

no, he is done his first year of college

That explains it...

Probably plenty of fun intelligent women in his course.
Hard to go back to village offerings after that.

kowloon

TuringBot47 wrote: »

That explains it...

Probably plenty of fun intelligent women in his course.
Hard to go back to village offerings after that.

Damn, that was cold-blooded .

Still waters

She dumped him but still offered friends with benefits, that's sound of her on fairness

Capt'n Midnight

colm_mcm wrote: »

You have to intervene. This sounds like a modern day Romeo and Juliet or other romance of that nature.

Romeo and Juliet is not a love story.

It's a 3 day relationship between a 13 year old and a 17 year old that resulted in 6 deaths.

Leg End Reject

kowloon wrote: »

I have 70 head of cattle and road frontage. Just saying.

What did you do with their bodies? :eek: :eek:

Dump someone because they treat you like a doormat, then offer them no strings attached sex on tap ...

... I don't think he's coming back, unless it's for a late night booty call when his other options don't work out.