Is there any point to this?

Afslbb

So I'm probably just catching a bit of madness here because of the lockdown, I haven't been dating obviously as a result but I've still kept active on dating apps.

There was woman I was texting briefly one night (early morning) on a dating app and it seemed that we were clicking however she was drunk while texting me and I did fall asleep as it was 2 in the morning and I had to get up early, when I woke up I said sorry for falling asleep and I haven't got a reply since.

I understand when you're drunk you may be more interested by someone than you would be when you're sober so I'm wondering if that would be the case or if she saw the apology as more of an insult and didn't reply as a result of it?

And final point is she hasn't unmatched me is there a chance I can rebreak the ice or should I just leave it?

blarb

Hi OP,

I think you're overthinking it a bit (as you say, lockdown could be having an effect).

I'm a female on dating sites too. I wouldn't be offended by a guy falling asleep if we were messaging for the first time at a very late hour. I certainly wouldn't be insulted by an apology - it would've been worse if you'd not replied. However, did you ask a follow up question, or make an effort to keep the conversation going?

If you didn't ask her a question I'd definitely say follow it up.

Bear in mind it could have been the case that she was just a bit drunk and lonely and wanted a chat at the moment. She may not be that bothered about dating (as it is such an usual time us singletons are in) so don't take it too personally if she doesn't get back to you. I'm on and off the apps thinking "why am I even on this right now" lol

Best of luck!

Upforthematch

Go for it.

You've nothing to lose.

LegacyUser

If I was interested I'd have replied....sounds like she was a bit drunk, horny/lonely and in the old light of day she prob wasn't that interested. Don't overthink it, it's likely nothing to do with you, the situation is weird for dating, like what's the point atm...she could've just liked the chats but realised nothings gonna go anywhere these days so didn't follow it up. Cos it's so early days, I'd shoot her one last message, no apologies or coming off hurt or desperate, just something she'd have to reply to like a question or a little cheeky and funny, and leave it there.

Afslbb

blarb wrote: »

Hi OP,

I think you're overthinking it a bit (as you say, lockdown could be having an effect).

I'm a female on dating sites too. I wouldn't be offended by a guy falling asleep if we were messaging for the first time at a very late hour. I certainly wouldn't be insulted by an apology - it would've been worse if you'd not replied. However, did you ask a follow up question, or make an effort to keep the conversation going?

If you didn't ask her a question I'd definitely say follow it up.

Bear in mind it could have been the case that she was just a bit drunk and lonely and wanted a chat at the moment. She may not be that bothered about dating (as it is such an usual time us singletons are in) so don't take it too personally if she doesn't get back to you. I'm on and off the apps thinking "why am I even on this right now" lol

Best of luck!

Thank you for the reply and fortunately she appreciated that I texted again and we texted all day today.

I've always had a problem with over thinking but this is the first time I've ever publicly wrote anything down about it so I want to say thank you for being kind.

And best of luck to yourself

blarb

Afslbb wrote: »

Thank you for the reply and fortunately she appreciated that I texted again and we texted all day today.

I've always had a problem with over thinking but this is the first time I've ever publicly wrote anything down about it so I want to say thank you for being kind.

And best of luck to yourself

Ah I'm glad to hear that OP. Sometimes little risks pay off I get you on the overthinking bit - that's why I love the forums here, it's helpful to get some objective perspectives!

Thanks, and I hope it goes well for you!