What if the worst happens..... I'm not emotionally prepared

crazy maisie

Hi all. I'm not a regular poster, so please bear with me.
I woke up bawling last night. And all because I'm thinking, how will my family know I love them if the worst happens to me. How will I survive if something happens my loved ones?
Is anyone else feeling like this? Any suggestions on what I should/could do to alleviate the stress. I was thinking of writing everybody letters and putting them away to be found at some stage if it happens.
Thanks.

Feisar

crazy maisie wrote: »

Hi all. I'm not a regular poster, so please bear with me.
I woke up bawling last night. And all because I'm thinking, how will my family know I love them if the worst happens to me. How will I survive if something happens my loved ones?
Is anyone else feeling like this? Any suggestions on what I should/could do to alleviate the stress. I was thinking of writing everybody letters and putting them away to be found at some stage if it happens.
Thanks.

I take it this is Corona related?

I woke up this morning to my wife telling me there are x amount of new cases. I said to stop looking that stuff up it does one no good. She said "oh it just comes up on my phone" I suggested she get rip of whatever news app it was. It doesn't do a body any good to be sitting on tenterhooks awaiting a news update.
That's not to say I am nonchalant about the thing. I am taking every precaution necessary/possible. People were dying before this and will be dying after this, it's part of the life gig. The media doesn't help, it's all you hear these days. Do you remember Haiti? They are still fúcked! It doesn't sell though anymore so now it's Corona.

In terms of any advice, they say to take control the things you can.

Wash your hands, don't meet people unnecessarily, eat well and keep your immune system up.

TheBoyConor

It sounds like an irrational and over the top anxiety about it OP.

Be reasonable, take the necessary reasonable precautions, and don't freak out.

Writing final letters to your loved ones is really over the top and unneccessary.

Loveinapril

TheBoyConor wrote: »

It sounds like an irrational and over the top anxiety about it OP.

Be reasonable, take the necessary reasonable precautions, and don't freak out.

Writing final letters to your loved ones is really over the top and unneccessary.

This is really unfair. The OP is feeling these feelings so they are valid. Your post really doesn't help.

OP, there are so many resources out there on how to manage anxiety around this. Try to limit your exposure to the news. I have deleted certain social media apps on my phone, I don't get notifications from news websites and I am listening to podcasts as opposed to the radio. I check in once a day or so to news websites so I am up to date but I am trying not to get sucked into it all. Please try to distance yourself from it all. Your concerns are valid but there is a lot of hysteria about which will not help you. Keep in contact with your loved ones through calls, texts or video chats. If writing those letters makes you feel better, then do it. But try to mind yourself in all the madness with mindfulness and whatever self care works for you.

Dravokivich

Hi OP, I think you may be better off posting this somewhere like Personal Issues. As it seems to come across more, that you are having some difficulty with handling the current situation as it unfolds.

Do you have any direct outlets you can reach out to about it?

Dravokivich

TheBoyConor wrote: »

It sounds like an irrational and over the top anxiety about it OP.

Be reasonable, take the necessary reasonable precautions, and don't freak out.

Writing final letters to your loved ones is really over the top and unneccessary.

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crazy maisie wrote: »

I woke up bawling last night. And all because I'm thinking, how will my family know I love them if the worst happens to me.

Why would you not just tell your family what they mean to you now rather than want them to know after you have gone?

I think we all suffer moments of fear and panic at the moment. Some days are harder than others.

Things I do to help myself at the moment. We don’t leave the house only for essential groceries and isolated walks.

I have ensured that my older family have to the best of their ability limited outside visitors. I have set up a grocery delivery for them.

I have cut down on social media/news and try not to read the covid threads here.

I try my best to stay rational and stick to facts. Fact...we are in isolation, nobody coming in or out of our house, therefore the chances of catching it is limited.

If leaving messages is something that helps you cope and puts your mind at ease then why not. But as I said above, try to focus on your facts, and your reality. It’s a mild illness for most of us. Do the best you can, and maybe reach out to family members for a chat. I’m sure they’re all feeling a similar way.

Wishing you and your family well x

crazy maisie

Thanks for the helpful and constructive advice that was provided. I have reduced my intake of news and media.

My family do know that I love them, but the kids are young and it's a 'remembering' thing for me.

Thanks all and stay safe.