But the most important reason why I did it was because I needed money, just like anyone else.
For some people sex work is great. I mean if you enjoy sex as a game where you don’t mind doing it with different people. If that’s your hobby, then it’s definitely a great way to make a living!
In The Netherlands the circumstances are different as in Nigeria, India or the Dominican Republic
You know in the Netherlands our circumstances are so different. The Netherlands is not a poor country, so the stories of the sex workers here in Amsterdam’s Red Light District are different. We have less issues with corrupt police officers than abroad.
When it’s a matter of life and death you cannot dwell on making conscious choices. You just have to make money.
I was always curious. Curious and a bit of a bad girl when I was younger.
I was raised in a small Dutch town and I found that quite boring so I kind of escaped from that
We had the so called policy of tolerance. I think sex work in The Netherlands was unsafe before they started that.
In the last year that we did this book project I’ve been to places in Rumania, Hungary and France. Really dangerous places where you have to stand in the dark or you have to step into the car with a guy and you don’t know where he’s taking you. That’s dangerous.
I was always interested in sex. Sex for me it was a nice game to play. It was not necessarily a thing that I only wanted to do with people who I’d have a relationship with or was in love with. And that’s what I always try to explain to people
...it can also be pleasant of course
And sometimes you had somebody that you did feel attracted to or that was just a nice guy, that’s possible too
I had no problem with working with older men, I was very young, but having customers of 60, 70 even 80, no problem. But it had nothing to do with my own pleasure. Just business
...one of the greatest things of being a window worker. The whole flirting game is fantastic
...they walk around in the district and see the girls in the windows and they think o my god they are standing there for the whole world to look at, but that’s the fun!
You make them come to the window, you negotiate at the door about the prices, times and things that he wants to do. That’s also fun.
But I know for sure, I can guarantee, that most of the people that work in the windows in the Red Light District choose this profession themselves
Prostitution is about sex and sex is a complicated topic for people, still. We don’t live in the Middle Ages anymore but people still find it hard to believe that you can have sex for fun and sex for money
So when I say I work as a sex worker and I enjoy it they don’t believe it because they can’t see themselves doing it. I always find that difficult to deal with.
Worldwide there’s a huge lobby against prostitution that is coming from Christians and feminists that are against sex work
Using human trafficking as an excuse whilst they both have different reasons to fight against prostitution. Christian morals and feminist ideas, they both see sex work as a morally wrong thing that should not exist.
I think it’s very unfair, they refuse to listen to sex workers. They refuse to use the words sex work. They think sex can never be work and that they should fight against it and totally ignore the voice of sex workers worldwide on this, they only want to speak about human trafficking because that’s how they view sex work
I appreciate that the mayor pays attention to the human rights of sex workers.
A very big mistake! I’ve seen in countries like France what that is doing, the harm that it’s doing to sex workers. It’s such a stupid idea and proof for me that the people who come up with these ideas are not interested in sex workers safety or rights
It will only make them more protective of their customers so more willing to work in circumstances that protect their customers. Those places are often the streets, the woods, illegal brothels or home based prostitution
What I also see happening is that the good customer, the well paying customer gets afraid to visit a sex worker. You lose the good guys as customers
And one can explain it in combination with other things, like sexuality or poverty for instance