Confused and disappointed

marchgal20

Closed.

Loveinapril

You say you weren't attracted to this guy, he never showed much of an interest in your life and never complimented you. Why are you so invested in a relationship (platonic or romantic) with him? I genuinely cannot believe you are in your forties. There is so much game playing in your post. He is clearly not in a place to be in any sort of mature relationship so you should move on. I still don't understand why you would do all this chasing for someone who you aren't attracted to.

marchgal20

@loveinapril

As stated in my post, I felt attraction to him at xmas and since. I wasn't playing any games, far from it. And yes, it is silly behaviour in 40s I agree! But thanks for your input.

Honeydew3456

Sorry OP, I got 3/4 of the way through and couldn't go on.

This man is broken and entirely emotionally messed up. He has NOTHING to offer you or other women and you are wasting your time.

Delete and move on fast for the sake of your sanity.

Once you are done with that work on why you felt the need to engage with such a man, to such an extent and for so long, in order to ensure you recognise the behaviour and don't get dragged into it again in future. Men like that are best left to themselves. FULL STOP.

Honeydew3456

P.s. there is a very good reason he is single!

Big Bag of Chips

It was very long, and what seemed lots of unnecessary detail. Have you basically typed that much stuff over a bloke you kissed (twice?) And don't want a physical relationship with?

It's fine that you don't want a physical relationship (you don't want a physical relationship, right?) but it's also fine if he's looking for something more and realising it's not going to be with you.

It shouldn't be this difficult.
I get the sense you want him to chase you though. I'm a very surprised to hear you are on your 40s. I was going to put you down as 17/18.

Edit: by the way, he told you not to call in after you said about the no contact thing.

I was joking but also not

What does this even mean?

You ignored his request for you not to call in. Then kissed him. Then started feeling him up, all the while letting him know that you wouldn't have a physical relationship with him. You are the one giving headwrecking mixed signals.

He asked you not to call!
You ignored him.
And now somehow he's the bad guy?

marchgal20

@honeydew3456

Thank you for your mature and constructive feedback and advice, much appreciated. And I fully agree with you!

marchgal20

@mod

Pls lock thread.

Big Bag of Chips

marchgal20, it's not particularly fair to delete your (very lengthy) opening post and request your thread to be locked, when posters have gone to the trouble of reading it and taking time to reply. It comes across as you not wanting to hear replies given.

Thread locked.