Do know what to make of this

Rosepetals85

... happy with advice given to me.

osarusan

If I understand you, he has never met these women offline, but encountered them online at some point before you two became an item, and at some later point, after you had been an item for 6 months, they became instagram followers of his?


EDIT: I've never used instagram, so does instagram have 'friends' as well as 'followers', and if so, what's the difference and why would a person choose one over the other? Or is 'followers' just instagram's version of 'friends' or 'contacts'?

marilynrr

Was his instagram new or maybe those 3 women were new to instagram and it synced their contacts in their phones? It's unlikely with 3 different women I suppose.

Is he following them too? or is it just them that follow him?

Rosepetals85

Thanks

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

I’d be deeply suspicious. Are there pictures of you two together as a couple on his insta?

Rosepetals85

I asked him out about it, he said that one of them he chatted to over two years ago so doesn’t know why she followed him this summer. I was like eh strange. The other one he first said he didn’t know who she was a few weeks back and when I said it again he said a mates gf although it’s not the same person although they would have a similar name.

Rosepetals85

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: »

I’d be deeply suspicious. Are there pictures of you two together as a couple on his insta?

No only one of him a year before he met me

ILoveYourVibes

Rosepetals85 wrote: »

No only one of him a year before he met me

THAT IS WEIRD.


I never trust a guy who doesn't have pics of his gf visible on social media. Partic if they follow random women or random women follow them. Its odd.

tea and coffee

Something else must be weighing on your mind to be posting about this now. They followed him last Summer and it's now January. Did something bring this to your attention?

Rosepetals85

Thanks

Rosepetals85

Sorry another post, try to give you the whole picture. One woman said I deleted his number when she seen he had a gf as I posted a picture of us and tagged him in it on fb. And she was one of the woman he unfriended on fb

Rosepetals85

tea and coffee wrote: »

Something else must be weighing on your mind to be posting about this now. They followed him last Summer and it's now January. Did something bring this to your attention?

I had said it to him before but it’s still niggling at me.

ILoveYourVibes

Rosepetals85 wrote: »

Sorry another post, try to give you the whole picture. One woman said I deleted his number when she seen he had a gf as I posted a picture of us and tagged him in it on fb. And she was one of the woman he unfriended on fb

Sorry i find this all hard to follow it might help me and others if you could clarify.

Rosepetals85

Thanks

Rosepetals85

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wiggle16

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

THAT IS WEIRD.


I never trust a guy who doesn't have pics of his gf visible on social media. Partic if they follow random women or random women follow them. Its odd.

He only has one picture of himself though, acccording to OP. I have an instagram but theres no pics of me on it, its only for things I draw. So that really doesn't count for much. Would be different if he had loads of pics of himself and made out he was single. One picture of himself doesn't do that.

OP what do you think is going on yourself? Is it that you think he is still using dating apps and thats how these girls found him?

Rosepetals85

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wiggle16

OP I'm sorry, I dont mean to offend you or anything, but it is really hard to follow what is going on here. I think it would help if you summarised things in the order that they happened. I'm not being pedantic it's just the way you're telling it I can't understand at all what's going on or what the issue really is.

Rosepetals85

My issue here is am I having the wool pulled over my eyes or am I overthinking this

All these women are from tinder

garbar

Hi op, I understand what you are going through. My OH is the same when it comes to posting pictures of us on instagram and facebook. We had a falling out about it over xmas with her texting and talking to people she met online. you do feel like they are keeping their options open or something. But we have agreed to work on it and i guess you have to trust your gut and what you feel from your OH

Rosepetals85

garbar wrote: »

Hi op, I understand what you are going through. My OH is the same when it comes to posting pictures of us on instagram and facebook. We had a falling out about it over xmas with her texting and talking to people she met online. you do feel like they are keeping their options open or something. But we have agreed to work on it and i guess you have to trust your gut and what you feel from your

Thank you for your comment... he hasn’t spoken to anyone of these women since he met me or so he says because he knows I will hit the roof and I’ll be gone. I don’t tolerate crap like this in relationship. I have asked him again today and he has says he hasn’t spoken to anyone online since he met me.

I hope you and your partner can work things out. It’s a horrible feeling

Rosepetals85

We are both in are mid 30’s... his past has truly come back to bit him on the arse with all his dating apps

Caranica

I might be in the minority here but I think you're making something out of nothing. Where he knows these women from is irrelevant. Unless he has a private Instagram account he can't control who follows him. I think you're totally out of order messaging the women, it's very controlling behaviour.

Do you have an issue with his female friends? Anyone else?

garbar

Thanks Rosepetals85, Its the unknown that`s the killer and it took my OH a while to realize how wrong and upsetting it makes you to be liking pictures and comments from people that they where potentially romantically involved with

Rosepetals85

garbar wrote: »

Thanks Rosepetals85, Its the unknown that`s the killer and it took my OH a while to realize how wrong and upsetting it makes you to be liking pictures and comments from people that they where potentially romantically involved with[/quote

I’m sure if the shoe was on the other foot she would hit the roof.

Grab All Association

Instagram sends notifications all the time saying such and such a person you know from another place has an Instagram yadda yadda yadda and women are obsessed with follower numbers and will no doubt add him hoping for a follow back. Her messaging you saying you she deleted his number pretty much vindicates him to most reasonable people. I think you should drop it and forget about it before you let your insecurities ruin your relationship

SusieBlue

Why were you keeping tabs on who was following him in the first place? Is checking out who has recently followed him something you regularly do?

I only ask because I actually did this myself with my ex. We were together years and I never took any notice of who was following him/who he followed etc., until things started to go to sh*t and I started to lose trust. By the end of our relationship I was over analysing every online action he did, fearing the worst...Because by then the trust was gone and we were having huge problems offline.

So has something happened in your relationship to justify you tracking his online activity? Because if it has, then that's extremely relevant. But if it hasn't, then it sounds like this might be more of a posessive/controlling thing on your part and nothing to do with him.

wiggle16

Thread locked as OP has deleted their posts.

Thanks & grma all who posted.