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Looking for support

  • 07-01-2020 11:52pm
    #1
    zoviea
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 80 ✭✭


    I'm just feeling pretty low right now. I care for my 2 sons who have Asd but also mg husband has depression, add.
    He always feels I put the kids before him and tgat I don't love him. I do tell him i love him and do my best to keep everyone happy and he disagrees with me that we hide things from the kids like when he's feeling bad and doesn't eat. I feel the kids don't need to know these things. It's putting a real strain on us as it's going on z few years, after therapy and I have him attending private therapy now to help him. But nothing's working. We get a few days good, then bad again. I'm tired of always been the one to get things done..and
    I'm tired of trying to be the strong, happy one. I work part time too as he's unable to work due to his mental health and I feel guilty that I'm happy to be going to work.
    I'm just feeling very lost and out of ideas on how to help him. Looking for some support if anyone's been here.


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  • #2
    coathanger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 267 ✭✭coathanger


    zoviea wrote: »
    I'm just feeling pretty low right now. I care for my 2 sons who have Asd but also mg husband has depression, add.
    He always feels I put the kids before him and tgat I don't love him. I do tell him i love him and do my best to keep everyone happy and he disagrees with me that we hide things from the kids like when he's feeling bad and doesn't eat. I feel the kids don't need to know these things. It's putting a real strain on us as it's going on z few years, after therapy and I have him attending private therapy now to help him. But nothing's working. We get a few days good, then bad again. I'm tired of always been the one to get things done..and
    I'm tired of trying to be the strong, happy one. I work part time too as he's unable to work due to his mental health and I feel guilty that I'm happy to be going to work.
    I'm just feeling very lost and out of ideas on how to help him. Looking for some support if anyone's been here.

    I’m sorry to hear you are going such a tough time, it’s very difficult to always be the strong one, to shoulder all the responsibility...
    Have you tried contacting the AWARE group , they help people with depression & may also be able to provide you with necessary support as your husbands caregiver.
    Hang in there...


  • #3
    Vetch
    Closed Accounts Posts: 422 ✭✭Vetch


    Sorry to hear you're going through a tough time, OP. If you have access to an Employee Assistance Programme through your job, you may be able to get support that way as well. I've no direct experience but know that a colleague and family members found counselling provided useful.


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