How much cash to give one child as a present if his parents have to give a present to

john9876

Met up with my brother today and he gave presents to my 2 kids.
My son (13) got 25 euros and my daughter (11) got clothes with 15 euro on the label.
My wife asked me for cash to give their daughter who is also 11.
I suggested 30 euro but she said that was ridiculous and we should give 40 or 50 euros.
We're probably similar income families.
Just curious what other people think is fair in that situation?
Eventually she agreed to give 30 euros.

john9876

Heading should have been
How much cash to give one child as a present if his parents have to give a present to each of your two kids.

EmmetSpiceland

You didn’t buy your niece a Christmas present?

antix80

€40 would be fairest.

Go by the household. If you receive a €30 btl of wine and your kids got €10 each, that's €50 you would spend on their household.

john9876

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

You didn’t buy your niece a Christmas present?

No, we think cash is better for kids over 11.

EmmetSpiceland

john9876 wrote: »

No, we think cash is better for kids over 11.

And are you wrapping it?

EmmetSpiceland

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

And are you wrapping it?

Save the planet maaaaaan.

Hoboo

How does one child comprehend why he only got 25 from his uncle, when his dad gave 40 to his cousin.

Is it normal to calculate total combined value and reciprocate equally regardless of number of children? So if you had 10 kids, and he gave each 20, would you give the only child 200 quid?

john9876

antix80 wrote: »

€40 would be fairest.

Go by the household. If you receive a €30 btl of wine and your kids got €10 each, that's €50 you would spend on their household.

We exchanged wine and chocs of similar value which is fine.
I don't think it's fair for one child to receive twice as much the other children just because they are an only child. Imagine the teasing ... "I got 40 euros and you only got 15!"

Guy:Incognito

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood.

Atlantic Dawn

Give them 40 scratchcards.

Charlie19

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

And are you wrapping it?

I'd imagine it be in a Christmas card.

Millicently

Hoboo wrote: »

How does one child comprehend why he only got 25 from his uncle, when his dad gave 40 to his cousin.

Is it normal to calculate total combined value and reciprocate equally regardless of number of children? So if you had 10 kids, and he gave each 20, would you give the only child 200 quid?

Why would the nephew know how much his uncle gave to his cousin? The only reason to know would be if the adults were bitching about one kid getting more money than the other, in which case I wouldn't bother my arse giving either of the kids money in future.

john9876

Charlie19 wrote: »

I'd imagine it be in a Christmas card.

Correct

Mam of 4

You give what you can fecking afford to give , not based on what the combined spend to your household from them was . Geez , do people really sit there adding up what prices the presents given to them were

AulWan

20 euro would have been plenty.

Hamsterchops

john9876 wrote: »

No, we think cash is better for kids over 11.

Why cash?
We would always buy presents for .....

Omackeral

Atlantic Dawn wrote: »

Give them 40 scratchcards.

Give them 40 scramblers.

Gadgetman496

If people give to get, or the people receiving feel obliged to equal or better the return, then, neither should bother in the first place.

That mindset is partly to blame for ruining the spirit that is meant to be behind giving a gift. It's the meaning, thoughtfulness that counts, anything other is simply a symptom of the "Jones disorder"

wakka12

Gadgetman496 wrote: »

If people give to get, or the people receiving feel obliged to equal or better the return, then, neither should bother in the first place.

That mindset is partly to blame for ruining the spirit that is meant to be behind giving a gift. It's the meaning, thoughtfulness that counts, anything other is simply a symptom of the "Jones disorder"

Well I mean youre right but sometimes you do just need to do the Jones thing , it shows respect and appreciation and giving a much less expensive gift back could just look stingy on your part, likewise giving one too expensive could make the recipient feel awkward and guilty.
And in the case of nieces and nephews such as in the OP's situation, a lot of people probably wouldn't know them well enough to get 'thoughtful' gifts even though it's still important to give something to show you still love them, theres lots of people at christmas who you might need to give a gift to out of tradition or obligation that you may not know very well and it's often hard to get out of that siituation without causing unnecessary hurt feelings or akwardness.

Gadgetman496

wakka12 wrote: »

Well I mean youre right but sometimes you do just need to do the Jones thing , it shows respect and appreciation and giving a much less expensive gift back could just look stingy on your part, likewise giving one too expensive could make the recipient feel awkward and guilty.
And in the case of nieces and nephews such as in the OP's situation, a lot of people probably wouldn't know them well enough to get 'thoughtful' gifts even though it's still important to give something to show you still love them, theres lots of people at christmas who you might need to give a gift to out of tradition or obligation that you may not know very well and it's often hard to get out of that siituation without causing unnecessary hurt feelings or akwardness.

Everything you just posted is correct too, but, unfortunately, correct doesn't make it right.

Edgware

Surely you have some old presents you didnt want. You could recycle them on to nephews