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How to I have better craic in conversations?

  • 26-12-2019 1:43pm
    #1
    completedit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,639 ✭✭✭


    I'm light hearted jovial and like to chat but my brain is quicker than my tongue so convos can be a bit of a mare. I think I expect a lot out of conversations and get frustrated if I don't have something wity or insightful to say.
    Many of my observations fall flat.


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  • #2
    milehip
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 735 ✭✭✭milehip


    completedit wrote: »
    I'm light hearted jovial and like to chat but my brain is quicker than my tongue so convos can be a bit of a mare. I think I expect a lot out of conversations and get frustrated if I don't have something wity or insightful to say.
    Many of my observations fall flat.

    Yeah it can be really annoying when you throw out some pearls of wisdom and they evaporate into the ether.

    It's not really something you can learn but if you get frustrated it'll only make you more flustered and less likely to contribute something worthwhile.

    I've no idea what age you are but I've found that my years advance, I'm less likely to expect so much from any interaction thereby increasing my calmness and confidence round others.

    I can only suggest researching some techniques to increase your poise around others and practice them around people you feel comfortable around,good luck.


  • #3
    Wildly Boaring
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,655 ✭✭✭Wildly Boaring


    2 ears,1 mouth

    People like to talk. Let them. And actually listen.


  • #4
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,211 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Take an improv class?


  • #5
    strandroad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,676 ✭✭✭strandroad


    completedit wrote: »
    I'm light hearted jovial and like to chat but my brain is quicker than my tongue so convos can be a bit of a mare. I think I expect a lot out of conversations and get frustrated if I don't have something wity or insightful to say.
    Many of my observations fall flat.

    I think you might be focused on your output or performance a little too much? Conversations are about the flow not about who delivers the best zingers or solves problems on the spot. If you can ask good questions instead you might learn a lot more and be remembered as an insightful conversation partner too; you will certainly pay more attention to what others are saying as opposed to waiting for your turn to deliver.


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