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Boyfriend still in touch with random girl

  • 21-12-2019 06:45PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭


    I would love some advice on this as I've been struggling with this for issue for a while.
    I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Last week he told me that he is still in contact with a girl he went on a couple of dates with a few years ago. I find this strange that they are still in contact and also I'm hurt that he hasn't told me until now. She isn't a close female friend that he's known since childhood or someone he knows from college or work. It just seems a bit random to me!
    Would this annoy you?


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  • #2
    Gerianam
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 122 ✭✭Gerianam


    Hi OP,
    A little more context would be helpful. Why did he feel it necessary to let you know that he was in touch with this woman?


  • #3
    punisher5112
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,519 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    Is a little strange as why would they stay in contact and what was the reason it came up.

    Did you find something and ask or did he just say.

    I'm a guy and find it a bit odd to be honest as if they were friends they'd be on more contact and meeting up etc.

    Something seems off.


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,046 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    punisher5112 wrote: »
    Is a little strange as why would they stay in contact and what was the reason it came up.

    Did you find something and ask or did he just say.

    I'm a guy and find it a bit odd to be honest as if they were friends they'd be on more contact and meeting up etc.

    Something seems off.

    Depends what a "couple of dates" means and how much contact they're in.

    I'm still in the odd bit of contact with two women I went out with for a while years and years ago before a big long-term relationship. A happy birthday or some big news if the other is online. They generally contact first and it's around once a year or something.

    I'd never even think to mention it to a new girlfriend, but my ex did see a message pop up and I told her. She didn't care. OP, if it's rare and out of the blue stuff, I wouldn't worry about it.


  • #5
    piplip87
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,264 ✭✭✭piplip87


    Your with him two years ? If he wanted the other girl he would be with her not you.

    I am still in contact with a few girls I went on a date or two with years ago. I'd say it's nothing at all to be worried about.


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