TTC after D&C - any treatment/tests?

nellaaa

Here is my story: On 28th of November I had D&C. It was my first pregnancy, I was 8 weeks pregnant. I saw my baby's heartbeat a week earlier but I had some brown and pink discharge and in the hospital they've asked me to come a week later for a double-check scan. On that second scan (in 8 weeks pregnant) we saw no heartbeat anymore. 
My heart is broken and there is no words I can say to explain my pain.

I want to get pregnant again, and in the hospital I was told to wait until 1 period and then try to conceive. So I am waiting for my period now (should come in 2 weeks hopefully) and we want to try again. But I keep asking myself questions if there is anything I can do to prevent miscarriage from happening again? 
I didn't do any tests after D&C. Should I do blood tests now? Or wait until I get pregnant again? When is the better time? I heard about taking progesterone (if low) to keep the pregnancy when bleeding occurs. Or taking Aspirin if blood clotting occurs. I don't know If I have any of these issues and I'm worried that If I don't do anything - this tragedy will happen to me again.
What would you do in my situation?

I would appreciate any help. Thank you

Baby19

I'm so sorry for your loss. As medical advice is not allowed, I won't comment on those parts of your post. Unfortunately, miscarriage is quite common in first pregnancies. I suffered one at 6.5 weeks and it took 6 months to conceive again. My advice would be to try again and see what happens. Tests etc of course can be done now but I personally feel it is worth trying to conceive again. Make sure you're taking folic acid and also a good multivitamin, I used Pregnacare (check the folic acid content). Wishing you the very best of luck. It's such a difficult thing to go through. Mind yourself and your partner.

anndub

I'm very sorry for your loss. I also had a miscarriage on my first and the gut wrenching grief and feeling of helplessness is still fresh in mind despite it being over three years ago. While pregnancy loss is always heartbreaking when it's your first pregnancy you also have to deal with the terror of "was this bad luck or if there something wrong".

Take comfort from the fact for the majority of women it is just bad luck. The chances are you know many women who have also lost but very few talk about it. The odds are very much stacked in your favour for your next pregnancy. Research has shown that pregnancies that occur within 6 months of a loss are statistically less likely to result in miscarriage.

It's unlikely you need any tests at this point and its so common you will struggle to find a doctor to do any anyway.

You are physically capable of getting pregnant immediately after a miscarriage but the best advice I got was to wait until I was mentally ready as it can be a very nerve wracking time second time round.

I found it useful to have a "plan" as I needed to feel like I was some way on control. Both of is took pregnacare (his n hers) daily. I made sure I got out for a walk every day and cooked fresh healthy meals. I booked a weekly slot with an acupuncturist who specialised in fertility. I also made sure we did lots of fun things in our down time to keep spirits up. My daughter was conceived after 2 cycles and it was a healthy, largely boring pregnancy.

I'm not sure where you are based but the rotunda have mental health midwives you can talk to. I found that useful despite being nervous going. I mostly cried for an hour which was healing in itself.

And most importantly allow yourself to be sad. You're grieving the dreams you had and that's perfectly valid

Shybride2016

So sorry for your loss, it’s such a heartbreaking time, especially on your first pregnancy. Be kind to yourself x

I had a D&C after a second miscarriage (3rd pregnancy) and I was advised to wait for my period to return which it did 4 weeks later. I didn’t have any tests done, I just continued taking the folic acid.

You did absolutely nothing wrong so please don’t blame yourself. It’s a horrendous experience to go through and a very lonely time. Hormone levels going up and down don’t help the emotions either.

Mind yourself and try again when you feel ready xx