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Borderline Personality Disorder

  • 14-12-2019 08:19PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm not sure if it's ok to post this here, but I have recently been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and it's hell. My relationship is starting to suffer massively because of my paranoia and fluctuating moods. I suffer from unpredictable highs and lows as well as paranoia and feelings of emptiness. Sometimes I feel like I'm going mad.

    I guess I just wondered if anyone else suffers from this condition, or can offer any advice? Right now I feel so lost. I see a therapist, and I attend a DBT group which aims to work on the symptoms, but I'm still suffering, and wonder if it will ever get better. Thanks in advance for any responses.


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  • #2
    Bobtheman
    Site Banned Posts: 2,799 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    I presume you are under medical supervision? I would avoid getting hung up on a label. In the end you need coping mechanisms. Has your psychiatrist provided you with material?
    I think from what I read you are doing the right things


  • #3
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,884 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    borderline11 wrote: »
    I'm not sure if it's ok to post this here, but I have recently been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and it's hell. My relationship is starting to suffer massively because of my paranoia and fluctuating moods. I suffer from unpredictable highs and lows as well as paranoia and feelings of emptiness. Sometimes I feel like I'm going mad.

    I guess I just wondered if anyone else suffers from this condition, or can offer any advice? Right now I feel so lost. I see a therapist, and I attend a DBT group which aims to work on the symptoms, but I'm still suffering, and wonder if it will ever get better. Thanks in advance for any responses.

    It's a new diagnosis, it will take time and getting a diagnosis can be upsetting as hell in itself.. You are doing the right things with DBT and a therapist. Be patient with yourself and do try to do the mindfulness exercises outside the DBT group setting. I didn't believe in them initially but some of them suit me so i do use them now. It's totally treatable, sit with your partner and explain how you feel, or write them a letter if that feels easier, best of luck :)


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    It's a new diagnosis, it will take time and getting a diagnosis can be upsetting as hell in itself.. You are doing the right things with DBT and a therapist. Be patient with yourself and do try to do the mindfulness exercises outside the DBT group setting. I didn't believe in them initially but some of them suit me so i do use them now. It's totally treatable, sit with your partner and explain how you feel, or write them a letter if that feels easier, best of luck :)

    Thank you for this. Did you find the DBT methods helpful? I try to do the mindfulness exercises and though I've at times found them helpful, my mind is too chaotic to really apply them consistently. Sometimes I honestly feel like I'm not treatable and I won't get better.

    I always knew I had BPD so getting the diagnosis has been helpful in that I can now treat it, but it's still so hard and wreaking havoc on my relationship. I almost feel being in a relationship worsens the symptoms and I'd be better off alone.


  • #5
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,884 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    The whole thing requires more patience than you ever thought possible.. Yes there are times when I can't practice mindful things because my mind is chaos, I just try to let it pass and then try not to be too hard on myself.. Lot easier typed than done though!.
    I am in a relationship and I take strength from it, to be fair it does help that she also has experience with bpd. We understand each other I guess. We communicate everything, no bottling stuff up or 'protecting' each other from the ugly crap that comes with the illness.


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