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Feeling like I'm Stuck

  • 11-12-2019 10:12pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am a female in my mid 20s. I started working straight out of college but recently started my first "proper" job in the past month. I was working in industry before then, but this job is much nicer. I hated my previous jobs, this one, well its easier, and pays a lot more.

    None the less I don't think this is what I want to do. I knew in my previous roles I didnt want to stay in those areas decided I needed to get out, I applied to study two particular courses, and I got in, but I realised I applied for the wrong reasons.

    Since I turned them down I've realised something. Applying for these courses, studying for the exams I had to take to get into these courses was a distraction from reality. I loved college, I loves studying, working towards a better future that was my passion, my work I dont care about it and it is horrifically depressing just working, in a job, I have no passion for, I feel like Im at a standstill and I have no desire to advance in this field. I feel that I am making no important impact on the world in my day to day activities and I'm just drifting by. I have nothing big to work towards, nothing important to me anyways. At school and college I was really academic and strived to always go a bit further, be better, the working world is meh. I dont care, I'm just waiting for my shift to end so I can go home. I feel stuck (and I'm only new to my job) I'm friendless (my friends moved to other countries and those that stuck around are busy with their relationships). I feel stuck. I want to move away yet the idea of that, leaving my home (I have been living in my current city/house since I started college) hurts. But I feel like life is passing me by. I was thinking about moving to Dublin but the cost of living is outrageous, but I feel like I need to get out. Yet, I want to do something new with my life, go into a completely different field, something I can enjoy and be passionate about, but IDK what that is, and I want to go back to college to possibly retrain in that area, but as I said I just don't know. I've been to career guidance counsellors and tbh in the end they made no difference. I've read books about my personality type for jobs, and yeah they say all the right things, but what it is specifically I want to do I don't know, and I feel like Im stuck here until I can figure that out.

    Before anyone suggests it, I have lots of hobbies, I go to various classes and volunteer for all sorts, but I can never make a deeper connection with anyone where we stay friends outside these classes (if youre going to talk about my friend issue)

    TLDR; Life is passing me by, I want to retrain to some area I can be passionate about and excel at but I dont know what that is for me and not even professionals could help me!


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