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Beckett42

Hi I'd appreciate any advice...I'm dating a nice man for a few weeks now from the start he came on very strong and interested wanted to see me as much as possible text me non stop I loved all the attention but I've definitely noticed a slowing down in his texts and excitement of meeting up is not as obvious yes ivee slept with him and now I'm left wondering is that all he wanted I've asked him he says I'm imagining it all but I dont feel I am he says he wants me but why the sudden change in interest should i prepare for the end,?

2012paddy2012

Beckett42 wrote: »

Hi I'd appreciate any advice...I'm dating a nice man for a few weeks now from the start he came on very strong and interested wanted to see me as much as possible text me non stop I loved all the attention but I've definitely noticed a slowing down in his texts and excitement of meeting up is not as obvious yes ivee slept with him and now I'm left wondering is that all he wanted I've asked him he says I'm imagining it all but I dont feel I am he says he wants me but why the sudden change in interest should i prepare for the end,?

I think as time moves on and people get to know each other the mad constant texting slows a bit ... time will tell tho ... I’m in exactly the same circumstances I don’t text quite as much but chat a bit more on the phone .... of course it could be co incidental or unfortunately the “ chase “ is over and he may lose interest ... wish you the best ðŸ˜P

Beckett42

Yea I feel that's it the chase is over for him and now I think I'll step back

Beau Bennett

What do you mean by not as obvious in wanting to meet up? Is he still meeting you or has he stopped completely?

Perhaps he is just relaxing a bit as you have become closer and not in the 'wondering whether he/she likes me' phase.

LegacyUser

It mighnt necessarily because you slept with him but just that's how he approaches relationships. Met a good few guys like that and always felt really let down but I've started to notice the signs and avoid those kind of guys. They start off way more intense than the average guy, seem super keen on you and building a relationship, you feel like you really connect with this person and then....it just switches off overnight....the guy starts pulling back, or finding fault or claims he only wanted something casual in the first place (really??? Casual equates to spending a full day and night together, sharing stories of our past etc)

Or.. just plain breaks up with you and you're left reeling.

Look up love bombing. Helped me a lot to spot the signs and trust my gut when I felt something was off.

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Beckett42

No he still wants to meet and texts but it's a gut instinct I feel as the txts r alot less then last week even shurly after a month it should bd still texting alot and not less

PHG

Beckett42 wrote: »

No he still wants to meet and texts but it's a gut instinct I feel as the txts r alot less then last week even shurly after a month it should bd still texting alot and not less

Hi OP,

Unfortunately or guts are more wrong than right. That does not mean he has cooled up. He could simply just be busy or stressed over something. Yes the texting does ease off and if he is still texting you a bit during the day I would not currently be one bit put off. Maybe he is just more comfortable with you now and being more his true self, which is a good thing.

Thanks,

PHG

Calypso Realm

As others have said, in the beginning he was trying to win you over and most probably unsure of how much you liked him. Not you've slept with him, you've removed some of that uncertainty and he's become more secure comfortable. He doesn't need to keep up that level of pursuit!

If he only wanted sex, then he'd no longer be in touch. As long as he's still in touch and you're going out on dates (though I'd still sit back and observe) then he's still interested.

Beckett42

No I haven't spoke since sun on phone only txt was ment to ring tonight he said he too tired no this is a complete different man since last week

qwerty13

Beckett42 wrote: »

No I haven't spoke since sun on phone only txt was ment to ring tonight he said he too tired no this is a complete different man since last week

I’m finding your text slightly hard to read. Is there a chance that he’s feeling that too?