Mutual Friends fallen out

Gael23

Two mutual friends are no longer friends and it’s quite bitter. We were all in the same group and being friendly with them both I feel awkward.
Not sure how to handle this?

Telly

Just dont get involved and leave them to it. Otherwise you'll be accused of picking sides.

Gael23

Telly wrote: »

Just dont get involved and leave them to it. Otherwise you'll be accused of picking sides.

Can I do they while maintaining my friendship with them both?

wiggle16

Gael23 wrote: »

Can I do they while maintaining my friendship with them both?

Of course you can.

The trouble isn't you. Once you stay out of it and don't let either of them involve you then there's no reason on your part why you can't remain friends with both. If one if them tries to talk about it, tell them you'd rather not because you don't want to get involved. Or if it's something very distressing, listen and say nothing. Easier said than done though.

What tends to happen though in situations like this is that one friend will take it as a personal slight that you've remained friends with the other one and makes an issue of it. Unfortunately that's how these things tend to work out in my extensive experience of bickering friends.

You don't have to answer, but what happened? Is it something that they might possibly patch up in future or have they fallen out for good do you think?

if one of them takes issue with you not taking sides, then your problem is solved.

stay friends with the other.