Just being paranoid?

LegacyUser

Just looking for opinions, not sure if I am just being paranoid. My boyfriend went out the other night with a friend of his. I was texting him on WhatsApp before he went out saying if they wanted a lift home I could collect them. He just said thanks and I didn’t text him after that.

After a few hours he text saying “ya will you meet me?x”. I text him saying “ya when”. I couldn’t hear him on the phone. So I text him saying will I meet you or not and he said no.
I thought no more after that but then I thought the way the text was phrased was like he was replying to someone else and accidentally wrote it in our conversation. Like if you would see a message on your notifications and when you go into the app you would be viewing a different conversation. Even writing this I feel like it’s ridiculous but I have a niggling feeling. I said it to him and he said was just typing rubbish because he was drunk. I don’t think he has ever cheated but he is a very talkative flirty person.

zubair

2019-anon wrote: »

Just looking for opinions, not sure if I am just being paranoid. My boyfriend went out the other night with a friend of his. I was texting him on WhatsApp before he went out saying if they wanted a lift home I could collect them. He just said thanks and I didn’t text him after that.

After a few hours he text saying “ya will you meet me?x”. I text him saying “ya when”. I couldn’t hear him on the phone. So I text him saying will I meet you or not and he said no.
I thought no more after that but then I thought the way the text was phrased was like he was replying to someone else and accidentally wrote it in our conversation. Like if you would see a message on your notifications and when you go into the app you would be viewing a different conversation. Even writing this I feel like it’s ridiculous but I have a niggling feeling. I said it to him and he said was just typing rubbish because he was drunk. I don’t think he has ever cheated but he is a very talkative flirty person.

Does he usually add an X at the end of a message to you? Maybe I'm the odd one out and admittedly I'm not very romantic but I don't ever sign off with an X.

leggo

There’s absolutely no way to tell either way. It could easily be what he’s saying because his reply made sense within your conversation, or it could easily be what you’re worrying about too. I’ve had gut feelings like that that proved to be dead on the money, so yeah it happens. But I guess the only thing you can really ask is: what sparked the question? A lot of people wouldn’t think twice of a partner texting a bit confusingly while drunk, because we’ve all been drunk with a phone and not made sense to someone before. So what else away from this is making you ask questions of this?

Xterminator

Hi Op

there nothing in that text exchange that suggests he is cheating.

As the last poster said perhaps there are other suspicions that made you suspicious of this innocent message, that we don't know, and are not privy too?

Or perhaps you have been cheated on before by a former partner and its colouring your view of things?

armaghlad

Does he normally leave an x when texting? Is it normal for him to text you drunk wanting a lift? You can only really know yourself if this is out of the ordinary. My ex was acting weird on a night out once; long story short she is now married to him

LegacyUser

He would often text me using an x, so I didn’t find that out of the ordinary. He would often ask me for a lift too.

We broke up for a time once, and I heard a lot of stories about him. I wasn’t inclined to believe them because I knew the people who were saying them had often made up stories about other people and even myself that weren’t true. Also he is usually very honest about things that go on on nights out and would tell me even though he knows it would kind of annoy me. (As in if a certain people were there, or if he was acting the fool.)

I suppose when I said I can collect ye, the next message after he said thanks was ya can you meet me, it was kind of the “ya” that threw me off. As in it could be him replying to someone else asking are you out? Or could as easily be him re-reading my message and saying ya I do want you to collect me. But then maybe he changed his mind and didn’t decide to go home?

Maybe I am reading too much into it. I suppose I am acting kind of insecure!

zubair

2019-anon wrote: »

He would often text me using an x, so I didn’t find that out of the ordinary. He would often ask me for a lift too.

We broke up for a time once, and I heard a lot of stories about him. I wasn’t inclined to believe them because I knew the people who were saying them had often made up stories about other people and even myself that weren’t true. Also he is usually very honest about things that go on on nights out and would tell me even though he knows it would kind of annoy me. (As in if a certain people were there, or if he was acting the fool.)

I suppose when I said I can collect ye, the next message after he said thanks was ya can you meet me, it was kind of the “ya” that threw me off. As in it could be him replying to someone else asking are you out? Or could as easily be him re-reading my message and saying ya I do want you to collect me. But then maybe he changed his mind and didn’t decide to go home?

Maybe I am reading too much into it. I suppose I am acting kind of insecure!

Well ignore the stories for starters if those people have a poor track record for telling the truth. If the text seems normal to you and you know he was a sauced up, I'm not sure what he could get up to while in that condition. I would forget about it.

sadie1502

2019-anon wrote: »

He would often text me using an x, so I didn’t find that out of the ordinary. He would often ask me for a lift too.

We broke up for a time once, and I heard a lot of stories about him. I wasn’t inclined to believe them because I knew the people who were saying them had often made up stories about other people and even myself that weren’t true. Also he is usually very honest about things that go on on nights out and would tell me even though he knows it would kind of annoy me. (As in if a certain people were there, or if he was acting the fool.)

I suppose when I said I can collect ye, the next message after he said thanks was ya can you meet me, it was kind of the “ya” that threw me off. As in it could be him replying to someone else asking are you out? Or could as easily be him re-reading my message and saying ya I do want you to collect me. But then maybe he changed his mind and didn’t decide to go home?

Maybe I am reading too much into it. I suppose I am acting kind of insecure!

Think you're reading too much into it. I get very distracted typing talking texting few drinks typing what I'm saying even though its not what I wanted to reply. I could be answering someone verbally but also typing what I'm saying. It all gets confusing. So I'd say possibly could be a bit of that.