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CaptainToenail

I am so upset, the guy I like who says he views me as a friend apparently invited everyone from my small group except me and this other guy on a hike today but did not invite me. I found out when a mutual friend brought it up at bdubs. Then when the mutual friend brought it up he said oh..yeahh.. you guys can come too. And asked this guy if he wanted to come and then I said does that include me am I invited and the guy I like said uh yeah sure really quietly without looking at me. Why would he invite everyone but not me?? I am so hurt, I thought I was his friend. And then later he said Im sorry, I didnt mean to be exclusionary I just like to do certain things with certain groups of people. But Im in the group of people you invited, the small group! So what does that mean??
And then he suddenly said he doesn't want to give me rides anymore because he is seeing someone and felt convicted and had some advice from some friends and family not to give me rides alone anymore. He said it wasn't because of me or anything I did but. I want to know what caused him to seek this advice if that's not the case?This guy said he isn't going to a small group hike because of some event at his church, but then this other guy says what are you doing? And he says I "might" be going to that event at his church. You just told me you were now your saying to him you might? What does that mean and which is it? Or did you just say you were going to that other church event as an excuse not to go to the hike because you didn't want to go because I might be there? And then after everyone left except me him and Ben, he said I like hanging out with you, Ben. And didn't say it to me. So I said cool, and the guy said you like hanging out with us Caitlin? And I said yes, do you like hanging out with me? And he barely nodded and didn't say anything. Why? Why would he say this to Ben while I'm the only other one sitting there and not say it to me?
I had talked to him at one of the bible studies I was at and said I wanted to talk to him because I was confused about alot of things and he said sure, you can message me on Facebook, so I did and one of the things I asked so far was if he knew why one of the other bible studies got cancelled, he said he didnt know and asked why I am so anxious and put a bible verse about being anxious. So I responded I know, but sometimes its easy for me to dwell on the past and be worried the same thing is going to happen again and overthink about why and what if. I saw that he saw this message but he has not responded but instead was only online for a minute and then went offline again. Why? Why would he ignore me??
This guy finally messaged me back at 1am with a two word answer and this was after l had messaged him again at 930 pm saying "Hey, I'm sorry, is everything ok? What did you think of what I said earlier about it being easy to dwell on the past and worry about it happening again?" And this was his response : "Yes.
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zubair

You're too keen and he knows. He's not interested so he's keeping his distance, sorry. Best to move on or your anxiety will get worse.

ILoveYourVibes

Honestly its time to move on.

When i say move on. Cut him out of your life.

When we are too keen ..we tend to feel we have done something wrong ....especially when the other person can't handle it ..or they feel they shouldn't have to etc ...

You haven't done something wrong ..you just liked someone that is all ...and those feelings were not something they wanted so they panicked.

Now and again we go through cycles of life ..we let go of people and things that no longer serve us...he isn't a positive part of your life anymore ..i would let go.