Feeling overwhelmed

Pol40

Hi,
I started a new job 7 months ago, which I'm finding stressful. There aren't enough hours in the day to get all the work done, so I'm taking it home. I want to do a good job, but it's hard to get on top of things.

I got married in March and we recently went for a 12 week scan but there was no heart beat. A couple of weeks later I miscarried our baby.

I have a weight problem but recently I can't stop eating I feel out of control worthless and tired.

Usually I find it easy to pick myself up and get on with things but I feel I'm only going through the motions of life...

Thanks for listening.

punisher5112

Sorry for both your loses.

Could be a good idea to speak with your GP and look for some time.

No way should you be bringing work home and I wouldn't be tolerating that myself.

Speak with management if it's too much but as you know they could get rid of you before 12 months.

At the moment you are more important then work and it sounds like you need time and get better.

Would you consider slimming world?

Pol40

punisher5112 wrote: »

Sorry for both your loses.

Could be a good idea to speak with your GP and look for some time.

No way should you be bringing work home and I wouldn't be tolerating that myself.

Speak with management if it's too much but as you know they could get rid of you before 12 months.

At the moment you are more important then work and it sounds like you need time and get better.

Would you consider slimming world?

Thank you for replying,
I decided after I lost the baby that there was no point being at home thinking about it. That there was nothing that could be done.


I have a week off coming up I'm hoping I'll pull myself together by keeping busy.

Pol40

Pol40 wrote: »

Thank you for replying,
I decided after I lost the baby that there was no point being at home thinking about it. That there was nothing that could be done.


I have a week off coming up I'm hoping I'll pull myself together by keeping busy.

I have tried slimming World previously but I kind of feel you need to be in the right frame of mind for it.

punisher5112

Pol40 wrote: »

I have tried slimming World previously but I kind of feel you need to be in the right frame of mind for it.

That's very true but worth a shot.

Keeping busy is your way of trying to cope but this is the issue, you are over working yourself and I believe this will end up worse for you as you will basically burn yourself out.

As I said you really need to seek advice and speak with your GP.

It's very easy for me to tell you my opinion and same goes from anyone especially as we do t know you but as I said you are in need of help and you need support.

Is your husband or boyfriend still with you?

Don't answer if not suitable a question.

Pol40

punisher5112 wrote: »

That's very true but worth a shot.

Keeping busy is your way of trying to cope but this is the issue, you are over working yourself and I believe this will end up worse for you as you will basically burn yourself out.

As I said you really need to seek advice and speak with your GP

It's very easy for me to tell you my opinion and same goes from anyone especially as we do t know you but as I said you are in need of help and you need support.

Is your husband or boyfriend still with you?

Don't answer if not suitable a question.

He is. He's not sure what to say to me.

punisher5112

Pol40 wrote: »

He is. He's not sure what to say to me.

I would suggest if you're comfortable you both attend your GP as I'm sure it's as difficult for him.

Work will seriously ruin you if you continued on that path you are on now

SuperRabbit

It sounds like you have got an awful lot on your plate, with so much work in the new job, and trying to cope with loss at the same time. And you've said that usually you can pick yourself up, but this time has been different. It sounds like you are a strong person and I think anyone would be feeling the strain.

I'm a big fan of Samaritans, I know they would feel honoured to be able to support you in this if you wanted to contact them. They have an email line here: jo@samaritans.ie and if you want to talk to someone over the phone they are there 24/7 on: 116 123

The Black Oil

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