Work relationship question

LegacyUser

I've being seeing a girl in work for the last 11 months, it's going well but a hard thing is figuring out space. We work fairly closely and it's hard trying to create space when we work so closely and then text in the evenings.

I feel it's recently putting a strain on things that we are almost seeing each other too much and when we text in the evenings there's almost nothing to say, has anyone had a successful work relationship where you worked closely and how did you create that necessary space so you actually had things to discuss in the evenings.

Mr. Incognito

Maybe just take the evenings out and hang out on the weekends and spend some quality time together.

Heres Johnny

I dated a girl I worked very close to before. In the end I left the job, 50% because I wanted to and 50% because I wanted a proper shot with her, it was never going to work since our jobs crossed over so much. I'm not saying leave a job if they are good jobs because my relationship broke down a few months after, but definitely have a think about what you want from the relationship long term

shreko

I worked with a guy who I happily ended up marrying :-) At the beginning of our relationship we, like you, spent a lot of time together at work, going out for lunch together, going to the canteen together, chatting during the day etc
It was a bit weird cause in the evenings we wouldnt have anything new to discuss but we didnt actually chat every evening other than maybe a good night text. To be honest I would have probably preferred more contact outside of work (cause I was mad about him !!) but he adopted a kind of every other day approach. In hindsight maybe it was for the reasons you are feeling right now.

Either way as our relationship progressed it actually moved the opposite way. Our life outside work grew and we stopped spending time in work together until eventually we didnt spend anytime in work together at all really. 11 months in is still very early days and its exciting and fun in work but as the relationship progresses your actual life will most likely take over so I dont think it will be an issue.
Best of luck with it !

Xterminator

keeping up friendships and hobbies you enjoyed before the relationship will help.

setting aside one evening on the weekend where you can go out with your friends and she with hers could help strike the balance.