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Depressed and getting worse.

  • 13-10-2019 8:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all.

    Going anonymous for this one. 30 years old, was treated for depression previously. Started in college when I dropped out of a good course due to getting into weed and first taste of freedom. Over the last 10 years or so I've made a balls of college screwed up every romantic relationship (bi but people don't know), from my side specifically and have ruined parts of my body (teeth, skin, knees) through bad decisions and bad maintenance. I had been on antidepressants for a few years but they just left me feeling like a shell and I'm not sure where to turn to now. I don't have any friends I could open up to about stuff and my family while good natured aren't the most open if I begin to mention what the causes are. I feel like I could do something drastic at any point but I can't open up because I'm too scared I'd lose the only support I have left if I'm honest. I have taken steps to sort stuff out unilaterally but it just puts in focus how much I'm messed things up.


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  • #2
    average hero
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 433 ✭✭average hero


    Hey OP,

    Firstly you are not alone! Reach out for help for one of the crisis helplines or professional help if you ever feel the need to! That is what they are there for!

    Aspects of your story in life mirrors mine. There are plenty of people like us so don't despair.

    While I advocate seeing professional services such as a counsellor to help you work things through, small things helped me like;

    1) Counselling. The number 1 thing that helped me.
    2) building a social circle I could trust.
    3) exercise and particularly martial arts
    4) getting on with improving myself. I wasn't happy with my teeth after they regressed because I didn't wear my retainer. I am getting invisalign next year. I am also improving my wardrobe and stuff too!

    Two youtubers who helped me too were Jocko Willink and David Goggins. While they are intense peolple, Goggins shows that anything is possible when you put your mind to it.

    Willink has a catchphrase 'good' that he states after nearly any setback as it allows him to rectify what went wrong or would have went wrong. It's a 'good' way of thinking.

    At 30, we are just starting out. Use this time to prepare yourself for a bright future!


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