Friend who thinks everybody is out to get them

black_and_blue

I have a friend who thinks everybody is out to get them. None of her relationships has ever lasted because they all eventually 'turn' on her. She thought she had a relationship after a one night stand so went crazy towards the man even though she kept saying she knew it was just one night and never expected anything more.

I have often gotten the blame for things that has happened as well. For example, she dropped her handbag, a few things fell out that she didn't see fall out and she said I stole from her handbag.

She does alot of online shopping and orders alot from online retailers. I have never had an issue with online retailers, but it's the same thing from every retailer for this person. Normally they're not sending her parcel on time, she thinks that it's no bother to stick something in an envelope and have it in the post within an hour, so she thinks online retailers should be doing the same thing. I have heard her so many times talking about getting a chargeback on her card because they weren't quick enough.

She has blamed anyone and everyone for Ticketmaster not sending out her concert tickets on time. The tickets are valuable to her, so she thinks somebody might steal them. If it's not stealing, it's another neighbour with the same surname as herself and she blames the postman. Even though it's what Ticketmaster do.

I don't think this person is right in the head and needs professional help.

Fakediamond

Why would you want this person in your life? Way too much negativity and not taking responsibility, not to mention turning on you for no reason.

Could she be a narcissist?

I’d be disengaging if I was you. You can do it gradually if you don’t want to be brutal about it.

A friend doesn't accuse you of stealing from them,why would you even consider her a friend, I'd drop her tbh,shes a draining personality by the sounds of it.

alchemist33

There's a thing called Paranoid Personality Disorder. Not saying she has it or not, but I'd also say its time to disengage. If you can't for some reason, time for a straight chat and you to set some boundaries about what you can and can't tolerate.

black_and_blue

Fakediamond wrote: »

Why would you want this person in your life? Way too much negativity and not taking responsibility, not to mention turning on you for no reason.

Could she be a narcissist?

I’d be disengaging if I was you. You can do it gradually if you don’t want to be brutal about it.

I think she's more pyschopathic than narcissistic. I've seen her hit animals and take her anger out on animals if she doesn't get her way.

Why are you hanging around with her?She's obviously deranged, I hope your username isn't in any way associated with her.

shesty

To be honest ,I would not be hanging around her.My experience is that some people are just like that.Don't know if it is something that is worth putting a name to, or just the way they are, but there are some people who think the world is out to get them and they are the wronged party 100% of the time.In general the easiest thing to do is limit your contact with them because they will never change.

seamus

There are a number of mental illnesses that initially manifest as low-level irrationality, paranoia and persecution complexes.

Aside from sitting her down to tell her that you find her behaviour worrying and you think she should see a professional, there's not much you can do except distance yourself from her.

Does she have any family that you could say it to, or are they bags of cats too?

black_and_blue

The family is also a bag of cats.

wiggle16

Not this again.

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