Not sure what to think

Cardamom and mimosa

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Bunny Colvin

Modern dating in a nutshell. I wouldn't bother analysing it too much.

Princess Calla

Leave it. He sounds like a messer. He's had a chance and a second chance...I wouldn't give him a third.

Upforthematch

When you caught that he set up anonymous profile to message you that's all you need to know about him!

Life's too short to be following a total head wreck relationship like this!

Ursus Horribilis

Cardamom and mimosa wrote: »

I'm fine with nothing happening between us I just cant work out his motives.

Really? It sounds more like you're hoping somebody here can give you some hope.

Cardamom and mimosa

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Princess Calla

Some people live on drama.

Others like to build their egos by playing with others.

Some like always having a back up plan.

Some are just headwreckers

This dude is probably a combination of all the above and more.

You've dodged a bullet, move on

Ursus Horribilis

I wonder has anybody ever had a happy ending (no sniggering down the back there) with a messer? I've yet to hear of one. I've plenty of anecdotes to the contrary. People who engage in this sort of nonsense are either not interested or just want to play the field.

Princess Calla

Ursus Horribilis wrote: »

I wonder has anybody ever had a happy ending (no sniggering down the back there) with a messer? I've yet to hear of one. I've plenty of anecdotes to the contrary. People who engage in this sort of nonsense are either not interested or just want to play the field.

In my experience nope, it always ended badly, though if you are truthful to yourself, you knew the writing was on the wall you were just refusing to read it

Though I have seen messers settledown with other people and things seem all good...I've also seen others get treated exactly the same way by someone they actually liked....karma!!

I genuinely think if someone likes you and is interested there will be no games. You just get on with it and enjoy each others company from the beginning.

zapper55

Ok ignore for a second that he's not treating you with any sort of respect because the treat em mean keep em keen seems to be working.

This is allegedly a grown man with fake account/ anonymous then a picture, disappearing then back. He is a ting like a gormless idiot. I'd be embarrassed to go.out with someone like that.

Take a step back and have a think out why someone treating you like this is attractive to you, about why you dont feel you deserve more.

After a few experiences like this and work on myself I was quickly turned off by this daft behaviour. You need to get to that place

LegacyUser

They do it because they're bored or for an ego boost.


The ego boost can be because they're just not getting any attention and so they're bored and need a pick me up, or there can be more sinister reasons like they love keeping people hanging on and get a kick out of playing with peoples heads, knowing they could still have them if they wanted to.

They NEVER do it for good reasons.

People like this are not worth bothering with at all!

dellas1979

Cardamom and mimosa wrote: »

Why message showing interest then leave me hanging after doing the same thing two years ago?

Lols because it sounds like he is the exact same person that he was 2 years ago. Dunno what the big surprise is.

We all do/have done it OP - someone from a time ago that we fancied turns up and you realise that they have not bettered themselves or evolved much.

I say evolving/bettering himself, but to him he could be the bees knees and is happy the way he is, and that is fine too.

cannotlogin

His motive is irrelevant, he's not good enough for you. Don't dwell on it.

Cardamom and mimosa

Thanks everyone, Ill take all your advice on board, he wont getting a 3rd chance.