Dating someone who doesn't drink alcohol

danslevent

This thread will reflect badly on my own drinking habits and culture but anyway...

So have you ever dated someone who doesn't drink when you're someone who drinks quite often? Did it create problems?

If you don't drink, how do you feel about having a partner that is a regular drinker?

Quantum Erasure

wrong forum /IMHO

endacl

Regular drinker, or problem drinker?

Muppet Man

Guaranteed lift home. I’d say give a few months anyway.

Guy:Incognito

endacl wrote: »

Regular drinker, or problem drinker?

Regular problem drinker

EL_Loco

During my phases of non-drinking I found drinkers to be suspicious and paranoid around a sober person, like I was taking notes of their fookin drivel.

So could ya hack it? well could ya?

Andrew00

endacl wrote: »

Regular drinker, or problem drinker?

Regular drinking as in a lad who enjoys a few pints of Guinness a few evenings per week after work

de5p0i1er

As a non drinker I can say it's not a big deal to me if someone drinks or not. I'm used to it.

I just wish there were other things to do in Ireland besides going to the pub.

People say you don't have to go to the pub but if your in a group of friends and some want a drink then that's where you end up going. I remember a time I was in Florida and made friends with some other people my own age (mid 20's at the time) staying in my hotel, we ended up hanging out in a bowling alley where most of us weren't drinking but you could still buy a beer and everyone had a good time. I honestly think if you could get alcohol in more locations then people wouldn't drink as much because we wouldn't be forced to go to the pub every time you go out with a group of friends or on a date with a drinker.

Veritas Libertas

I don't like to drink and hate being around drunk people. I don't mind people having a few drinks and being merry, but drunk and incomprehensible and emotional, I cannot stand.

joeguevara

I know someone who doesn't drink but goes out more than anyone...always having fun.

I think the issue is someone who doesn't like going out and their partner does. Then it would be incompatible. Nothing wrong going for a few pints without your partner but if it stops you going Out then it probably wouldn't work.

freshpopcorn

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cj maxx

I've gone out with non drinkers, as in dated. Pretty short as in under a year and never had a problem. We both worked in pubs at the time. We would meet in a pub or like and I'd sip a beer but it became sort of natural that we'd start going out to different places. Bowling, qizz nights where I wouldn't drink etc. I did kinda stop drinking all together during that time as she could obviously get the taste kissing . Overall I'm glad I took the break from boozing most nights

Ficheall

Non-drinker here - available for dates, in the interests of science.

Edgware

de5p0i1er wrote: »

As a non drinker I can say it's not a big deal to me if someone drinks or not. I'm used to it.

I just wish there were other things to do in Ireland besides going to the pub.

People say you don't have to go to the pub but if your in a group of friends and some want a drink then that's where you end up going. I remember a time I was in Florida and made friends with some other people my own age (mid 20's at the time) staying in my hotel, we ended up hanging out in a bowling alley where most of us weren't drinking but you could still buy a beer and everyone had a good time. I honestly think if you could get alcohol in more locations then people wouldn't drink as much because we wouldn't be forced to go to the pub every time you go out with a group of friends or on a date with a drinker.

Maybe if people had alternatives to the pub it would be better. Have you considered hosting a bukkake party?

B.A._Baracus

Non issue
But that depends on yourself to be honest. Plenty to do with your partner that doesn't involve booze. if you're the type of person who views social things around the pub then yeah that's gonna be a problem.

andekwarhola

No problem with it at all. Not everybody likes a drink. The faintest whiff of disapproval about me enjoying a beer or two though and goneski.

andekwarhola

de5p0i1er wrote: »

I just wish there were other things to do in Ireland besides going to the pub.

Of course there is.

danslevent

It's so nice to enjoy a bottle of wine with a partner though...

However, we have our first date Saturday and if we hit it off, it might be good to have a sober influence on my life. I am the "once I start I find it hard to stop" drinker

Mundo7976

Dated a girl, we both enjoyed a drink. One time she told me I wasn’t allowed to drink JD. I ended it the following day!

Thoie

danslevent wrote: »

It's so nice to enjoy a bottle of wine with a partner though...

However, we have our first date Saturday and if we hit it off, it might be good to have a sober influence on my life. I am the "once I start I find it hard to stop" drinker

I drink comparatively rarely, and I've no problem going to the pub with partner/friends and not drinking. However if the person I'm with turns into an argumentative bollix, I'll call it a night. This is fine with friends, but could cause issues if it's a partner being both argumentative, and trying to insist that I stay because they want more drink. If both people are happy to go home separately it shouldn't be a big deal.

What's so much nicer about sharing a bottle of wine with a partner instead of, say, a pot of tea (not that I drink tea)?

Feisar

Mundo7976 wrote: »

Dated a girl, we both enjoyed a drink. One time she told me I wasn’t allowed to drink JD. I ended it the following day!

To be fair it's awful swill, she had a solid point.

Greyfox

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

Non issue
But that depends on yourself to be honest. Plenty to do with your partner that doesn't involve booze. if you're the type of person who views social things around the pub then yeah that's gonna be a problem.

I'd find it a disadvantage but not a deal breaker. The problem is the early stages of dating I'm so used to it involving alcohol I find it hard to do non alcohol related stuff as there's only so much you can do without alcohol

I don’t drink in fact I’ve never touched the stuff and I’m with my boyfriend 3 years now

He drinks sometimes no harm on a night out I’m the ones who minds phones money and keys etc

Biodegradable

It's likely going to be a problem. The drinker knows they shouldn't be drinking so much, and they will presume that the non drinker is judging them. They will of course try to pressure the non drinker into drinking by passing little snide comments. Perfect recipe for conflict.

The less two people have in common, the worse. If one person smokes and has tattoos. And the other does neither of these things, then these people will just not suit each other.

Way of the world.

Cee-Jay-Cee

My wife doesn't drink and I do. It never caused any problems when we first started seeing each other and probably resulted in me drinking less which isn't a bad thing.

B_ecke_r

my fiance doesn't (or very rarely drinks)

I don't see why it would be a deal breaker?

I love a drink

Guy:Incognito

de5p0i1er wrote: »

I just wish there were other things to do in Ireland besides going to the pub.

People say you don't have to go to the pub but if your in a group of friends and some want a drink then that's where you end up going. I remember a time I was in Florida and made friends with some other people my own age (mid 20's at the time) staying in my hotel, we ended up hanging out in a bowling alley where most of us weren't drinking but you could still buy a beer and everyone had a good time. I honestly think if you could get alcohol in more locations then people wouldn't drink as much because we wouldn't be forced to go to the pub every time you go out with a group of friends or on a date with a drinker.

People choosing not to go to those places isnt the same as those places not existing. Using your own example, we have bowling alleys here too. Some do BYOB nights.

L1011

I imagine it'd probably be easier than going out with someone who has the alcohol tolerance of a toddler, which I've managed to do for years now. End result can be quite like incompetently "minding" a toddler too, park in the corner with a (sippy cup of?) water and a phone to play with while I go for another pint :pac: