How did you know you married right

SeXi Sadie

Maybe it's the cold feet or just general older wiser and not so quick to bite mentality spinning around in my head, but with talks of a wedding coming up I feel like I am non stop noticing things about my partner. Did this happen to everyone else. Did you question it or do you genuinely know deep down you are marrying the one. Come from a rocky family background and been through a lot in a short term relationship with him. We have kids. Help! He seems suddenly so different to me, I love him with all my heart just feel as though hes acting and treating me differently

Faith

Mod note: Moved from the Weddings forum as this seems to be more of a relationship issue than, say, a wedding planning issue. I think you’ll get more responses here.

Dial Hard

How short is short-term?

Caranica

I had doubts. I got married. We're getting divorced. We gave it years but I know so so many people whose marriages have broken down in the first year. Listen to your heart, talk to a councillor. Don't ignore those inner doubts

redfox123

Lots of people have issues, ones that come out and cause problems in relationships as they progress. It’s your responsibility and your partners to try and resolve or iron out most of these especially before marriage. I don’t believe in this idea of one right person, as you grow older you realize everyone is kind of crazy in one way or another you just have to see which kind of crazy or how much you can work through and who is worth the effort when things aren’t as rosy as the start. You say you love him with all your heart, that is a good foundation, but what do you mean he treats you differently, in a negative way? Do you feel he treats you with love and respect? Are there communication problems? These are the most important questions and must be faced head on before making a life long commitment.

Gerianam

Is he kind to you, OP ? Would he have your back if you needed him ? Can you depend on him at your darkest, loneliest moments?

SusanC10

If you have doubts don't ignore them.

What you need are kindness, loyalty, support, good communication and agreement on the basics such as life goals and finances. As well as love. But love on it's own is not enough.

I had no doubts at all and according to Himself neither did he. Which was probably just as well as within a year of marriage life threw us some curve balls and there have been some more since.

I couldn't be without him. We are stronger together.

I would say a willingness on both sides to discuss problems openly and take responsibility if they are at fault.

This doesn't mean accepting blame for everything, it just means of one partner is never wrong about anything and never apologises then there is a big problem.
Dishonesty is the #1 problem in marriage whether it be financial, sexual or whatever.