A lifetime of unhappiness

ladygoodman

Hi All,

I dont really know how to start this so I'll just go ahead. I'm female, 28.

For the longest time I have been consistently unhappy in life. I have a loving family, friends, graduated last year, working.

Dont get me wrong, I've had many many happy moments in my life, but through it all I guess I have felt a dark cloud over it all.

This unhappiness has manifested itself in many ways: binge drinking, recreational drug use at times and particularly weight gain which is now getting out of hand. I started college years ago, dropped out, years of what would be described as laziness, unemployment but then I went back to college and got my degree but I'm now working in a low level job with little room to grow and unrelated to my degree.


Where do I go from here? Would therapy be beneficial?

Thanks

Anna2834

Hi OP - I know of someone who used to be in a similar situation - actually probably much much worse, and she saw no light at the end of the tunnel. It was really bad lets just say that....and way too many people knew about it also (all over the news).

She decided to go back to college, got her degree and applied for every job possible that was related to her degree. Seven years later she is in a great job, travelling the world with excellent career development. But she had to reach rock bottom to realize that she was in charge of her own "story".

I would love to go into more details on how she was homeless and had a baby that she couldn't care for, a boyfriend who dumped her when she was 7 months pregnant, how her family refused to help her etc etc etc...its a very sad story with a happy ending. She applied herself and now she is doing great.

You seem to have applied yourself also and graduated (congratulations). Keep applying for roles in your area and you will succeed.

I have several friends who swear by how great therapy was for them.

antix80

ladygoodman wrote: »

Would therapy be beneficial?

Of course it would. It can give you some direction, and help you identify problem behaviours like negative thinking or self sabotage and strategies to prevent them.

I know you're not enthusiastic about your job.. But a job means income. You can pay for things to make your life better (instead of alcohol, fashion or junk food). You can take out a small loan if you need to. You can identify opportunities and gain practical skills.

Any positive effort you take has at least the potential to make your life a little better. Over time, all the little things that went well will add up.

Sure some grads get top of the class, get snapped up by big companies, leave their families or friends to move to where the opportunities are and get massive promotions in the space of 5 years. This isn't you. Your progress is more likely to be made in smaller steps. Hopefully in 5 years you can look back and be happy with the progress you made.

ILoveYourVibes

You need to find the root of your emotional issues.

I think you also need a purpose and some dreams.

You need hope.

I don't know if therapists can do this. If you feel one might help. I would go for the obvious symptoms of your problems like the drug use and weight gain etc.

Good luck OP.