living in your own little bubble

When was the last time you realised you lived in your own little bubble, the center parks thread made me think of this.

Met a couple with two small children anyway they both have very very well paid jobs, yet they did not appear well off at all, it was my sister who pointed out the mortgage they must have and the cost of full-time childcare for two children something I had not thought of.


Paying the bill at a hotel I said to the receptionist..you must see very little cash nowadays and she said a lot of family's pay by cash its something they have saved up all year for by squirreling away a bit of cash each week to have 3 day in a hotel with a swimming pool.

whiskeyman

We all live in a little bubble in a way due to compassion fatigue..
We've been desensitised to so many horrible and unjust stuff abroad and at home, we just plod along in our own little bubbles...

BuboBubo

mariaalice wrote: »

When was the last time you realised you lived in your own little bubble, the center parks thread made me think of this.

Met a couple with two small children any way they both have very very well paid jobs, yet they did not appear well off at all, it was my sister who pointed out the mortgage they must have and the cost of full-time childcare for two children something I had not thought of.


Paying the bill at a hotel I said to the receptionist..you must see very little cash nowadays and said a lot of family pay by cash its something they have saved up all year for by squirreling away a bit of cash each week to have 3 day in a hotel with a swimming pool.

Appearance can be deceptive. People with new cars, designer clothes and big mc mansions aren't necessarily well off. The ones who seem to 'have it all' - sometimes they don't.

But I sometimes wonder how do people manage juggling childcare, mortgage, motoring expenses, everything. It must be very difficult for families nowadays. Even with two decent wages coming in it has to be tough.

I definitely live in a little bubble. I work shifts so I'm not usually in rush hour traffic or out and about during school commutes etc. We haven't any kids, so pretty clueless in that regard too.

Franz Von Peppercorn II

A sibling of mine has a fairly decent dual income. But with childcare, cars, pensions, mortgages, college savings etc. they have no money. They can’t really holiday abroad for instance.

LirW

I live in the Wicklow Hills if that counts?

Signore Fancy Pants

LirW wrote: »

I live in the Wicklow Hills if that counts?

Calm your tits Larry Murphy

Show off.

worth arguing that people have always lived in their own little bubbles and were likely always better off for it

the increasing numbers of irish ppl whose mental health is affected by large and small events half a world away is testament to that

fits

We both work full time and I think we would find it very difficult financially in the greater dublin area with a mortgage and twin toddlers in fulltime childcare. Even in our local area we must be relatively well off with two ok jobs and yes it can be easy to forget that other people are having a difficult time financially. We run old cars and put a bit by all the time and holiday in Ireland. I dont like living paycheck to paycheck so we make sacrifices in other areas.

I definitely live in a bubble. I actually have no mental energy to process terrible events in other countries. Avoid the news a lot. Thinking a lot of that family in Malaysia with the missing teenager at the moment though they must be going through hell.

ILoveYourVibes

I am sure I do. It hasn't been brought to my attention for a long time though.

I think when trump came to power was the last time.

I predicted brexit. I knew that would happen.

I thought Hilary would NARROWLY scrape by but I thought she would win though.

My bubble was shown to me then.

Grandeeod

I don't live in a bubble and find it hard to relate to those that do. I don't live to work and make sacrifices to keep it that way. Real life has taught me to be this way. I prefer the work to live approach and don't partake in the rampant keeping up with the Jones' crap either.

BrokenArrows

I've always been comfortable financially, generally due to luck to be honest. Always seem to land the right job at the right time. Was employed throughout the recession etc.

I'd definitely find it hard to put myself into the shoes of those who struggled, lost their jobs, houses etc.

Even now myself and the wife are both in good jobs and pop abroad a good few times a year without having to worry about the expenses.

I'd image everything will change when we have kids. Likely loss of one income stream, stress, lack of freedom, increased expenses.

So ya, currently in a total bubble. Might pop anytime now with Brexit related issues as we live in the UK.

I tend to totally ignore the world's problems. Scroll though Google news and it's just a list of horrific events. Walking through a major city, you also have to be in a bubble, homeless people, general scumbags hanging around, asshole drivers, asshole people.

The world is too big a place.

Captain Havoc

I made a conscious decision to live in a bubble. We hear far too many stories and not enough good ones to want to stick my head out of the bubble. The world isn't bad, we just hear about all the bad stuff.

I don't understand what you mean OP. Living in a bubble for me implies that you remain firmly inside your own life with little thought or concern for the outer world.

c.p.w.g.w

I'm an example of appearance being deceptive.

My job at the surface to pure retail(deputy management) but do a good bit Business 2 Business stuff too. Typically my clothes pennies, have some nice stuff from next(not much mind).

Bumped into former college classmates a few months before Xmas 18 and was just doing the small talk.

I got sent on a screenshot from a groupchat these former classmates are in. Basically feeling bad for me, because I was working were I was, and I must be having a sh!t life.

The people saying this are certainly paying more in rent than I am on my mortgage(most likely multiplies of 5) and unlikely to have savings comparable to mine. I know this because they never get off Facebook complaining about such things.

I don't get annoyed about the reading/talking behind my back. I just feel sorry for them really, they don't seem to be all that happy with their own situation

73bc61lyohr0mu

Captain Havoc wrote: »

I made a conscious decision to live in a bubble. We hear far too many stories and not enough good ones to want to stick my head out of the bubble. The world isn't bad, we just hear about all the bad stuff.

Exactly. Bad news sells. Negative stuff sells.

JupiterKid

I think we all live in our own “bubbles” to a certain extent in that we have our own worlds to manage and deal with and especially so if you have a young family with children to feed, clothe and educate.

That said, I’m very clued into current affairs and world events around me but I do limit my news exposure because it is so bloody negative and too much exposure to the negativity is not good for your mental health.

A good friend told me years ago that the constant diet we all receive of bad news and stories designed to generate panic is very bad for well being and it is better to limit your news exposure.

There is only so much people can deal with.

ILoveYourVibes

Brantley Glamorous Billboard wrote: »

Exactly. Bad news sells. Negative stuff sells.

True its disproportionately represented alright.

previous user

LirW wrote: »

I live in the Wicklow Hills if that counts?

Yeh what's that like, off grid is it?

ILoveYourVibes

I would like to burst my bubble tell me something shocking.

Potential-Monke

I 100% live in my own bubble, because it's better than the real world. The real world wants you to get a mortgage, a wife and kids (the more the better) and most likely a pet. The real world is full of dicks, the always offended and more dicks. Turn on the news, read the newspaper, it's all doom and gloom and people killing each other, the rich stepping on the poor, the offended somehow managing to get stuff changed to suit their agenda, natural disasters, wars, famine, etc. Why would I want to live in that world?

I recently got my credit history report, and due to a failed mortgage I'm going to have a bad credit history for the foreseeable future. The mortgage payments that were in arrears when I sold (and took the negative hit, why should I have been allowed to stay if I wasn't paying the agreed amount?) are going to follow me until June 2022, and the credit union has me at 8 months behind consistently (which I was, but have been paying on time since), so that won't go away until 7 years after I have paid them off, which won't be until the end of the 20's if I'm lucky. So money wise I'm screwed.

Throw random times of debilitating anxiety onto that, and my bubble is the only place I can go. Being a Garda for 9 years has also desensitised me to most 'atrocities'. I think it actually gives me a more neutral opinion on things, as I can remove the emotion usually associated with events. My bubble consists of me, a few smokes, my games/tv shows/films/anime, and sometimes DnD with a few friends (all of which are 10+ years younger, because 30-something year olds are turning into boring cnuts). No interest in kids or a wife, but wouldn't say no to a part-time monogamous relationship (not that that will ever happen, and who doesn't want to shack up with a 36 year old who lives with his parents and is broke for the foreseeable?).

I like my bubble.

ILoveYourVibes

Potential-Monke wrote: »

I 100% live in my own bubble,
I like my bubble.

I like your bubble!

Potential-Monke

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I like your bubble!

I love your vibes!

beauf

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I don't understand what you mean OP. Living in a bubble for me implies that you remain firmly inside your own life with little thought or concern for the outer world.

I think he meant it hadn't occurred to him how expensive it is for families.

Grandeeod

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I like your bubble!

Potential-Monke wrote: »

I love your vibes!

Don't go bursting bubbles!

ILoveYourVibes

Grandeeod wrote: »

Don't go bursting bubbles!

Don't go breaking my heart!

beauf

beauf wrote: »

I think he meant it hadn't occurred to him how expensive it is for families.

Because the OP feels they live in a bubble?

My post comprehension has gone to the dogs

Filmer Paradise

Yes Absolutely!

Myself & the Missus are at the stage of teenage kids, elderly parents & a wider extended family.

Also we both work hard at demanding full time jobs.

We put heart & soul into all of it to build a better life for all of the above.

So........why the fcuck would we give a shiny sh1te about wars in far flung places or Syrian refugees, or every other hard luck case going?

Might sound harsh, but there it is.

Sheridan81