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Meeting the families

  • 29-07-2019 08:04PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    What would your timeline be?

    Would it depend on whether or not its long distance?

    What do you make if one side has met a few times but the other family never?


Comments

  • #2
    wiggle16
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 3,022 Mod ✭✭✭✭wiggle16


    You're going to need to give more detail in order to get useful advice. General answers are not going to be much use to you because this issue is quite circumstance-specific.

    Or is this a specific issue for you, OP, or more of a general discussion?


  • #3
    Cooper89
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 33 ✭Cooper89


    i think if it was me personally, I would meet the family once I knew or felt that there was a genuine future for me and my partner.

    So I dont think theres a specific timeline or rule.

    With regards to your second question, I think if you have met their family you should defo make a move to ensure he/she meets yours. Again if you feel there is a future.

    But thats just me.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yew, this is a situation I find myself in and don't know whether or not too push the meeting the parents after a year when they've met mine


  • #5
    leggo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,061 ✭✭✭leggo


    Not a lot to go on but as a general rule of thumb:

    1) No particular timeframe but once you’ve got out of the honeymoon phase (so there’s been a bit of conflict/disagreement or you at least get to the stage where you don’t see them as perfect in every way and more love them for who they are) and are pretty certain they’re someone who might be around forever.

    2) I’d want the meeting the parents deal to be fairly in-sync. It’s a stage in itself. If they’re not ready to meet yours or vice versa, don’t do it at all. But circumstances also play a part there too and can be legitimate (eg they live in a different country). Still, one person meeting them and the other not is pretty uneven. It makes it really serious for one while the other is still at the ‘try before you buy stage’. So yeah, I’d value meeting both sides around the same time more than having to do it ‘by’ a certain time if that makes sense.


  • #6
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    Relationshipmilestone wrote: »
    Yew, this is a situation I find myself in and don't know whether or not too push the meeting the parents after a year when they've met mine


    I'd consider a year to be past the "try before you buy" stage. Is there any reason why you haven't met your other half's parents, do you think? What's their relationship with their parents like?


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