Most spoiled adult you know?

noubliezjamais

Not kid or teen, adult? Is being spoiled simply the attitude and/or the wealth?

There's a guy from my class who has parents that give him €2,000 a month when he is not working on the holidays but he gets the best grades. On the surface, someone would definitely call him spoilt but since he's putting it to good use (goes to the gym, holidays, car, good clothes) is that really bad?

You can be a 'brat' without the wealth, but that's debatable.

Vic_08

noubliezjamais wrote: »

but since he's putting it to good use (goes to the gym, holidays, car, good clothes)

Spending money on yourself is considered putting it to good use now?

Noveight

I know of a woman in her early 30’s who admitted to spending upwards on 10k a year on dog minding and grooming.

She also mentioned that her Ma and Da foot the bill.

jaxxx

Noveight wrote: »

I know of a woman in her early 30’s who admitted to spending upwards on 10k a year on dog minding and grooming.

She also mentioned that her Ma and Da foot the bill.

Bigger f*cking eejits!

bodhrandude

Liam Gallagher.

Church on Tuesday

noubliezjamais wrote: »

Not kid or teen, adult? Is being spoiled simply the attitude and/or the wealth?

There's a guy from my class who has parents that give him €2,000 a month when he is not working on the holidays but he gets the best grades. On the surface, someone would definitely call him spoilt but since he's putting it to good use (goes to the gym, holidays, car, good clothes) is that really bad?

You can be a 'brat' without the wealth, but that's debatable.

That's fine now, but they are doing him no favors for the future.

Mammy and Daddy won't be around forever.

freshpopcorn

I know some guys who's parents were well off. Owned businesses/etc.
When they were 17 they were put on the families car insurance and for there 18's they were handed good cars.
It's similar with holidays,clothes, technology,etc and even when it comes to buying houses/weddings.
They aren't spoiled in your face but they can't really connect with people who are struggling/average.

votecounts

Would the poster give it a rest with these posts, i see its gone now

It's probably different, but i live in a council estate, and although almost all of the people I've known have been decent, quiet chaps that keep the head down and get on with life, a lot of them don't ever seem to have achieved (or attempted) anything at all.

Most of them are still on the dole, and spend enormous amounts of time just playing videogames (which I don't mind, in and of itself, but if that's all you do, then there's surely an issue?). Also, a lot of smoking weed, I've noticed.

Thing is, one of my friends, for example, has 2 brothers and a sister. One brother had a child with a girl, and so the council gave him a house in the area. He now has his own business (albeit he never owned the house, still rents it from the Council despite them offering it at 1/2 market value to him).

The two other sons and the daughter do a whole load of nothing. One of them cuts grass and washes windows (he's early 40s id say) the odd time for a few euro in cash, the daughter and the other brother (my friend) do nothing of note. They all live at home with the parents, and none of them have any interest in working, and the parents seem to have no expectation of them, either.

I just think it's mad that the parents don't seem to mind, at all, that there kids are just wasting their lives and although they're a quiet family (ie; not troublemakers), they contribute nothing to the area. I can't imagine what'll happen when the parents die.

Your Face

I knew a politicians son during college.

We had some of the same friends, so I got to know him.

He had a pretty sweet set up in college - nice apartment, BMW, summer holidays managing his father's properties on the continent.

When he had a few drinks in him, you heard exactly what you'd expect to hear.

freshpopcorn

Your Face wrote: »

When he had a few drinks in him, you heard exactly what you'd expect to hear.

Dail bar gossip?

Your Face

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Dail bar gossip?

Not too much gossip.
More that I got an insight into what politicians and their spawn think about us mere mortals.

freshpopcorn

Your Face wrote: »

Not too much gossip.
More that I got an insight into what politicians and their spawn think about us mere mortals.

Alright.
I know of a TD and they were lovely at college people did so much for them but once they got elected and what they wanted they dropped everybody and were rude about it.

Your Face

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Alright.
I know of a TD and they were lovely at college people did so much for them but once they got elected and what they wanted they dropped everybody and were rude about it.

The fella I knew would have similar traits.

kowloon

I've been spoilt all my life and will be until the day I die, just by being born into a home with no financial difficulties and having great parents who think much higher of me than I deserve.

ILoveYourVibes

Moi.

But I mean what IS spoilt really?

Its all relative.

What is normal to you is going to be spoilt to someone else no matter who you are.

noubliezjamais

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Moi.

But I mean what IS spoilt really?

Its all relative.

What is normal to you is going to be spoilt to someone else no matter who you are.

True and people from developing countries consider any "back talk" by teens in the West to be spoiled even if they're not pampered by parents. The bar for being spoiled is lower.

I think though spoiled isn't about wealth but an attitude of entitlement. Being extremely rude when you don't get your way.

If you watch the kids on Dr. Phil then you'll know what I mean. There's a girl who pawned off her mothers jewelery cause she didn't pay for a trip from L.A. to London. She got €5,000 from it and spend the remainder on drinks and food for herself.

ILoveYourVibes

noubliezjamais wrote: »

Being extremely rude when you don't get your way.

Being extremely rude period. That's spoiled.

Bob Harris

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

That's fine now, but they are doing him no favors for the future.

Mammy and Daddy won't be around forever.

That's what inheritance is for.

Larbre34

Bob Harris wrote: »

That's what inheritance is for.

Exactly, I'd say he's counting the days.

Sunny Disposition

One guy I know never worked till he was about 20, parents gave him heaps of money, messed up at school, dropped out of a couple of colleges. Around 23/24 he started working in retail, more disasters. Ended up with a rich partner though.
Pure idiot really, got things too handy, no value on anyone or anything.

Used to be jealous of the likes of him as a young lad, who were given whatever they wanted and never worked hard at anything, but at this age I think it all rebounds pretty hard.

Beasty

2 if my kids....

The other 2 are not adults yet!

theteal

kowloon wrote: »

I've been spoilt all my life and will be until the day I die, just by being born into a home with no financial difficulties and having great parents who think much higher of me than I deserve.

Yeah, I'll second that - well there wasn't a lot of money but I don't look back on them as difficulties as there was always a workaround.






One of my old work colleagues - I'm actually meeting him later for a beer, I suppose that veers us more into friends territory. His old man worked with us too, contracting as a senior engineer. Now us lowly normal engineers weren't on great money (hence neither of us are still there) but it was not bad by any stretch, I mean I was able to buy a decent house within a 40 minute commute of London.

My friend on the other hand, still lives at home. His new job pays about 70k + bonus, 60% working from home so very little travel costs. I assumed he'd be kicking in a bit of "rent" now given his new circumstances. Nope. I was then slagging him with the presumption that he now at least pays his own mobile phone bill. Not a chance, his old man still covers the lot.

I know his old man is really going out of his way to give the kids a leg up as London property is scandalous but my friend is 26 and spends more money on smokes, coffee and graphics cards than goes anywhere near a savings account.

razorblunt

Gemma Collins.

branie2

Don't know anyone like that, thankfully

eldeniro

I know a fella who takes the Honest Water at the airport and only pays 10c if he even pays at all. Despite the fact that he's clearly able to pay for a holiday, he argues that he just likes the thrill of getting a huge discount on the product.

nthclare

My parents came from old money and they're absolutely loaded, always giving me and my brother and sister money, we all work but they have so much money they couldn't spend it all.

I wouldn't undermine them by rejecting their generosity, they are good people and winner's.

Coming from a privileged back ground gave me the opportunity to do what I really wanted to do and that was get a degree in horticulture and become a professional Gardener, I love it.
Money's ok have a great loving family, not married have a son who's a normal enough chap, and no financial strain.
I'm glad I didn't have to work my self to a life of misery and be in the squeezed middle.

I suppose in ways I'm working class as old money and working classes have more in common because we are used to our lot and have no wants.

They're away most weekends, in their 70s now and just love life, love being generous and thoughtful.

Butterface

A friend recently complained that she didn't receive any good birthday gifts (she turned 34), and ridiculed the handbag that her mother gifted her. I presume it was an expensive handbag, but must not have matched her expectations.

She lives at home and does not pay rent. Her parents also recently paid for her flights and accommodation to go to her brother's wedding abroad.

I'd be delighted to get a birthday card, never mind a gift. And anything my parents have ever gifted me I have received gratefully!

I am still fond of her, but I have so many examples of her being a spoiled brat throughout our friendship

Church on Tuesday

Bob Harris wrote: »

That's what inheritance is for.

Depends on who it's left to.

Aisling(",)

A girl I know parked her car on a beach not checking the tides and the inevitable happened.
Her Dad then replaced the car for her with no intention of her paying him back.

duffysfarm

i would have to say my brother. He works with my father and is 44 years old. He has never bought a car in his life so far. think of the money he has saved........

biko

Any influencer

heldel00

biko wrote: »

Any influencer

Definitely. Modern day form of begging.
"Gosh guys my hair curler just broke. Any recommendations?"

Cue a delivery of new curler 10 days later.

Crock Rock

All public servants, especially overpaid and underworked teachers.

This is your average public servant when asked to do even a scratch of work beyond their contractual obligations.

heldel00

You're so cool Crock Rock.

An interesting cultural phenomenon in Ireland is that we don't have any real cultural tradition of spoiling children. Maybe that's because Ben Dunne and Charlie Haughey were hiding all the money until about 1990, and everyone was a bit poor. Or maybe because we had a tradition of disdain for childhood.

That's all changing radically now. But I remember visiting cousins in England in the 1990s, and they were unbelievably spoiled. I used to envy them and complain to my parents about how much better-off our cousins were, and didn't understand how destructive it is to spoil a child.

Only one of those cousins has graduated from college, and they all seem to dislike one another, and are some of the most miserable, irritable, impatient people I know. I'm not saying that's only because they're spoiled, but there's a link.

I don't know many Irish adults whom I think were spoiled as children. It's something that is associated with more child-centric societies, which we've only recently become.

The worst example of spoiling children I've ever seen was in the MIddle East. It's very common, even in an average, middle-class home for a maid to be allocated to looking after the kids, while Mum and Dad's role is only to buy them toys.

And the maid will be Filipino, and no matter what her name, she will be called Mary by the kids, because they don't care what her name is anyway. I have never seen children being so demanding of an adult, shouting orders to pick something off the floor or bring them water. They learn from a very young age to treat their household workers with an alarming lack of civility.

Fr_Dougal

nthclare wrote: »

My parents came from old money and they're absolutely loaded, always giving me and my brother and sister money, we all work but they have so much money they couldn't spend it all.

I wouldn't undermine them by rejecting their generosity, they are good people and winner's.

Coming from a privileged back ground gave me the opportunity to do what I really wanted to do and that was get a degree in horticulture and become a professional Gardener, I love it.
Money's ok have a great loving family, not married have a son who's a normal enough chap, and no financial strain.
I'm glad I didn't have to work my self to a life of misery and be in the squeezed middle.

I suppose in ways I'm working class as old money and working classes have more in common because we are used to our lot and have no wants.

They're away most weekends, in their 70s now and just love life, love being generous and thoughtful.

No, you’re not working class in the real sense. You have a funded lifestyle similar to a <30 year old living at home with mummy and daddy.

But kudos to you, you acknowledge your background and don’t pretend that you’re not funded.

Nigel Fairservice

I remember a girl I worked with getting a brand new Fiat Punto back in about 2002 for her 18th from her parents. She made them take it back and get one in a different colour she liked.