I only have one 'type' and it's hard to find dates. Any of you like this?

LegacyUser

I'm not really looking for a solution to my problem, because I know what it is. I need to have more than one type. If there's a way to force myself to have more than one type I'm all ears.

I just want to know if anybody else is the same as me.

I'm only attracted to girls who are dark/brown eyes/olive skin/african etc. I feel like I have some sort of mental defect when it comes to the other sex. If I see a blonde or red haired girl or somebody with pale skin for example, I can look at her and tell that she's stunning. I've often thought "wow she should be a model!". But I'm not really attracted to them. I'm just happy enough to stay in my seat and not approach them, or if I'm on tinder I can just 'swipe left'.

However if there's any sort of dark/brunette/foreign/olive skin etc. about them I'm all over them. It's the only type of girl I've dated and it's gotten to the stage where even my parents know my type due to the few girls I've brought home "for dinner" over the years. (I'm approaching 30 btw)

Does any other guy or girl here have this problem? Do you have a certain type and you just won't accept anything else? Just trying to figure out how common this is and work from there.

skallywag

1tpyeofgirl wrote: »

Does any other guy or girl here have this problem?

I am not sure why you see this as a problem? Do you expect that *normal* people are naturally attracted to all variants?

Lotus Flower

This is very common, off the top of my head I can think of a few friends with partners that strongly resemble exes. I wouldn't worry

SozBbz

I think most people have a type, it just varies to what extent.

Personally I've always been attracted to tall, lean men. Colourning is less important to me, but probaly more fair than dark. Its not super strict tho.

Men I've met and been involved with from the get go tend to conform to the above.

I've dates men ocasionally who werent like this, but that tended to be after getting to know them as friends first and the attraction growing based on humour/intellect etc.

Perhaps you need more female friends OP, and you might start to find more people attractive over time based on personality?

Bythefire

I think it's very common.

I'm attracted to guys who are 6ft, not overweight, sporty and sincere. Very hard to find those guys! Currently in love with one of my friends who fits this but he doesn't feel the same!

I have cut dates very short with other guys who don't fit my "type"! If there's no chemistry, there's no point!

Rachiee

Everyone has a certain taste in men or women it's like ice cream flavours it's just a preference of what turns you on.
But if you only explore things based on initial physical attraction you may actually miss out on the most amazing person who you may become attracted to as you get to know them.

So it's totally not an issue but you would probably benefit on going on a few dates with people you arent cracked into but who seem interesting and fun, it's amazing how attractive someone who wasn't your type becomes when you realise how special they are.

leggo

OP if you want help and to make use of your thread here you need to expand on why you feel this is an issue for you.