Feeling a bit suspicious

Hugo1000

My girlfriend got a new phone the other day and put the other phone in the bedside locker, and I didn't mind and I'm not the type of guy to snoop on someone else private possession like a phone, but she also arranged to go to wexford with her sister and friend, and this morning I noticed she took her old phone with her to wexford, why was that and she is only gone for a day, I mean why bring two phones with you? i will talk to her about it when she comes back, is this a good reason to be suspicious and maybe she thought I would look it and if so what is she hiding, and their is no need to bring two phones with you! What should I do confront her or leave it? would you be suspicious too.

GarIT

Has she moved all her numbers over? All her apps? Her email accounts? WhatsApp sometimes has a holding period when switching phones if you get unlucky. Plenty of reasons.

Hugo1000

She done that straightaway as soon as she got it she moved everything over, but the old phone still has the data.

jlm29

Maybe she brought it to sell it, or give it to whoever she was going with for some reason. I’d find You noticing it was gone a bit odder than her taking it to be honest.

Panthro

With that as the only thing to go on, sounds like you're walking into a row you're about to create to be honest.

Ursus Horribilis

My heart breaks for the innocent baby the pair of you are about to bring into this world.

This thread cannot be taken in isolation from the other ones you've started and then run away from regarding your relationship with your girlfriend. It's a toxic relationship and you're about to become a father with this awful woman. You have much bigger fish to fry than what she's up to with her phones.

Hugo1000

Come on man, I'm merely asking for advice on my current situation and I find it unfair that you are disrupting my post and what I have said, this isn't what I said in the past that matters, is what matters now. I am just asking what people think and not to bring up what was said before, its irrelevant. I am a hardworking man who does not drink or smoke or even do drugs, I may have made a mistake but I will give this child the love it needs. Now all I ask is advice on my current topic please.

baby and crumble

OP, I gave my brother my old phone last week when I upgraded. If she's away with her mam and her sister that's one of the most likely scenarios tbh.

Dial Hard

Hugo1000 wrote:

Come on man, I'm merely asking for advice on my current situation and I find it unfair that you are disrupting my post and what I have said, this isn't what I said in the past that matters, is what matters now. I am just asking what people think and not to bring up what was said before, its irrelevant. I am a hardworking man who does not drink or smoke or even do drugs, I may have made a mistake but I will give this child the love it needs. Now all I ask is advice on my current topic please.

Of course what you've said in the past matters, you have an established pattern of behaviour in your relationship that is not normal or healthy. Expecting us all to ignore your previous posts and treat each new issue in isolation is pointless and really telling as to the level of denial you're engaged in.

Your relationship is toxic. There really is nothing else anyone here can say.

Faith

Hugo1000 wrote: »

Come on man, I'm merely asking for advice on my current situation and I find it unfair that you are disrupting my post and what I have said, this isn't what I said in the past that matters, is what matters now. I am just asking what people think and not to bring up what was said before, its irrelevant. I am a hardworking man who does not drink or smoke or even do drugs, I may have made a mistake but I will give this child the love it needs. Now all I ask is advice on my current topic please.

In this case, “the past” means “a couple of weeks ago”, so is hardly enough time that your problems of then are irrelevant now. That you can’t see all of these events as part of a bigger picture is very worrying.

wiggle16

Hugo1000 wrote: »

Come on man, I'm merely asking for advice on my current situation and I find it unfair that you are disrupting my post and what I have said, this isn't what I said in the past that matters, is what matters now. I am just asking what people think and not to bring up what was said before, its irrelevant. I am a hardworking man who does not drink or smoke or even do drugs, I may have made a mistake but I will give this child the love it needs. Now all I ask is advice on my current topic please.

It absolutely does matter.
And it is not unfair for posters to point out that this issue isn't something to be taken in isolation. Ursus is not disrupting your thread, they are pointing out that this is not a standalone issue.

Posters will not be asked to pretend they haven't read your previous posts or aren't aware of the other issues going on. You start a thread, posters offer their advice, and it's up to you to decide what you make of it. You don't get to dictate what kind of advice you are given.

Hugo1000

Dictate? where did you get that from. Your like a strict school teacher having a go at me. I should feel free to post whatever I desire. And isn't that what this place offers freedom of speech. I didn't say or do anything wrong, and I think its disgusting calling me a dictator, don't you dare call me that again. I shouldn't be condemned for posting, its a free site and you should feel free to post what you like, now your calling me a dictator, look whose talking.

GarIT

Hugo1000 wrote: »

Dictate? where did you get that from. Your like a strict school teacher having a go at me. I should feel free to post whatever I desire. And isn't that what this place offers freedom of speech. I didn't say or do anything wrong, and I think its disgusting calling me a dictator, don't you dare call me that again. I shouldn't be condemned for posting, its a free site and you should feel free to post what you like, now your calling me a dictator, look whose talking.

If you can post what you like (which isn't the case, boards is one of the most censored sites around) can they not also reply what they like?

leggo

You’re telling someone their advice is not what you’re looking for, you’re the one directly trying to control what others are posting, dictating if you will.

And they’re right. You post every few weeks about something else wrong with your relationship but never follow the advice given. It’s absolutely relevant for people to point out that you refuse to help yourself no matter what is said to you.

wiggle16

Hugo1000 wrote: »

Dictate? where did you get that from. Your like a strict school teacher having a go at me. I should feel free to post whatever I desire. And isn't that what this place offers freedom of speech. I didn't say or do anything wrong, and I think its disgusting calling me a dictator, don't you dare call me that again. I shouldn't be condemned for posting, its a free site and you should feel free to post what you like, now your calling me a dictator, look whose talking.

I didn't call you a dictator. Though judging by the above I wouldn't have been far off if I had.

I've reviewed your previous threads. This is the third time you have posted about the issues in your relationship. And now you're taking issue with others legitimately pointing that out in their advice.

As it is clear you are not taking any advice on board and want posters to pretend they haven't seen it so that you get advice more to your liking, I am going to close this thread.

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