telling lies about you

raher1

Hi
I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back.
Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.

Fathom

raher1 wrote: »

Hi I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back. Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.

Caution. Not a scientific source. See How to Survive a Character Assassination by Ryan Pannell in Huffpost.

raher1

That's great advice. It took off some of the pressure.

Fathom wrote: »

Caution. Not a scientific source. See How to Survive a Character Assassination by Ryan Pannell in Huffpost.

Stop moaning ffs

raher1 wrote: »

Hi
I am wondering, why would a person hang around you and then tell lies about behind your back.
Is there a word to describe this behavior? Or a description? I am lost. I am a victim of this kind of person.

Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)

looksee

Stop moaning ffs wrote: »

Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)

Life isn't always as linear and organised as that. And depending on the lies and who is being told, it can create more issues trying to explain than just ignoring it all.

Stop moaning ffs

looksee wrote: »

Life isn't always as linear and organised as that. And depending on the lies and who is being told, it can create more issues trying to explain than just ignoring it all.

I understand. I had a huge falling out with a great friend recently and he sees our gang and social group far more iften and did exactly the same to me and I have no recourse. In fact i won’t even bring it up cos it’ll look like me backbiting when I really just want a fair say.

The devious always win sadly.

I would make your pals aware and just cut that person off if I were you. Too late for me to take the advice but hope you can.

The Black Oil

What's the modern term, something similar to gaslighting...or something in that ballpark?

raher1

Stop moaning ffs wrote: »

Have to ask. If you know that’s what they’re doing to you, why you don’t just cut them off completely and explain to anyone they’ve told those lies to how they lied and why you’re cutting them off. (Also warm them that if they’re lying about you they’re probably lying and backstabbing about them too)

I was the last to leave and what I can gather it's going on a while. This individual was reported to the Garda twice.

raher1

The Black Oil wrote: »

What's the modern term, something similar to gaslighting...or something in that ballpark?

Your close, it was that in the beginning but I broke free. It's now telling lies

raher1

I am thinking two face wanker to describe this person