Save the Date

splinter65

Roughly how far ahead do folk send “save the date” cards? Like, how far ahead is too far ahead. Thanks.

Loveinapril

splinter65 wrote: »

Roughly how far ahead do folk send “save the date” cards? Like, how far ahead is too far ahead. Thanks.

I have only ever gotten one and it arrived about 5 months ago for August 2021, which feels absolutely ridiculous.

banie01

splinter65 wrote: »

Roughly how far ahead do folk send “save the date” cards? Like, how far ahead is too far ahead. Thanks.

We sent ours out @9 months before hand if memory serves.
Just long enough for people to get pregnant to avoid coming :pac:

splinter65

Loveinapril wrote: »

I have only ever gotten one and it arrived about 5 months ago for August 2021, which feels absolutely ridiculous.

We got one today for Aug 2020.
They’re a pair of harmless twits. They’re currently sofa surfing (neither can hold down a job, she’s never actually had a job) having been expelled and cut off financially (with kindness) by both sets of parents!
This seems to be an act of defiance more so then anything else.

Atlantic Dawn

Fridge magnets with the date are a nice touch.

Spanish Eyes

I think save the date is a trap for those who may not wish to attend, and cannot give the excuse of a prior engagement four or five months down the road when the invites go out.

I do not like them personally. But that's just me and maybe my age, a little older and grumpier!

MiliMe

We have gotten one for a foreign wedding about a year or so in advance.

Loveinapril

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I think save the date is a trap for those who may not wish to attend, and cannot give the excuse of a prior engagement four or five months down the road when the invites go out.

Yeah, it kind of is! I don't particularly want to go to this wedding. It is a two day affair, a couple of hours drive away and I will have a 4 year old and two year old at the time who I will need to organise childcare for (but this is a family wedding). And free time I can manage away from the kiddies, I will want to spend somewhere of my choosing. Better start thinking of my excuses now!

Spanish Eyes

Loveinapril wrote: »

Yeah, it kind of is! I don't particularly want to go to this wedding. It is a two day affair, a couple of hours drive away and I will have a 4 year old and two year old at the time who I will need to organise childcare for (but this is a family wedding). And free time I can manage away from the kiddies, I will want to spend somewhere of my choosing. Better start thinking of my excuses now!

I understand your thinking. No one wants to upset the wedding day for anyone really, but everyone has a choice too. It is not a summons to appear before the beak!

There is a lot of pressure and expectation put on people to attend, without thinking of the logistics of attending for many people like yourself. I feel for you.

One thing I have learned is.... if you cannot attend after receiving invite, let them know within a day or two. There is always a reserve list!

Suit yourself love. The wedding will go on with or without you. With due respect to the couple.

Prospector1989

We sent ours in July 2018 for our wedding which was at the start of this month. We wanted to avoid being too early but as the wedding was on the Saturday of the June bank holiday we wanted to give people plenty of notice. More than half of our guests had their accommodation booked by the end of August.