Do you get on with the in-laws?

JupiterKid

So, AHers...

...if you are hitched (or formerly hitched) do you get on with the family of your Significant Other?

Does the “Mother in Law” cliche/running narrative still hold true? Do you find the siblings of your other half to be good pals or a royal pain in every orifice that are best avoided and only to be endured the odd Christmas?

Personally, I am pretty fond of my OH’s mam - she is like a mother to me and is a really decent sort. His siblings on the other hand...

Do tell!:D:pac:

eviltwin

My mother in law is the absolute best in the world. She's the mother I never had. I adore her and her sons and their wives. I am very envious of my husband growing up in such a cool and loving family, mine was a bit sh1t but I feel very lucky to have my second family.

BuboBubo

My mother in law died a few years ago after a long illness. She was lovely, an absolute lady. Never knew my father in law, Mr Bubos dad died when he was a kid.

I get on great with his brothers and sisters, no drama thankfully

ILoveYourVibes

My parents do NOT like their in laws.

From the start of our relationship their siblings and parents hated me. Sometimes to the point of actual violence. Which I guess was very understandable at the time.

Time healed all however and now we could not be closer. The parents in particular - who also act and feel as much for the grand-kids that are biologically theirs as for the ones who are not.

And having effectively three sets of grand parents over all - absolutely rocks in terms of baby sitters and other parental outsourcing.

mad muffin

We are like this

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

My mother and father in laws were wonderful. The brothers and sisters in law are sound and we all get on well.

UsBus

My former father in law was dead on, quiet enough like myself
ex mother in law was a right odd ball, just weird & I could see some of her traits being passed on unfortunately...hence the ex

banie01

I have 2 sets of in-laws.

Set 1 my MIL is very hard work, can be very childish and treat people very harshly.
That said her love of her family usually buys her a pass and she is a fantastic Grandmother.
When I met my current wife, my In-Laws were and are a great support to us and the 1st to congratulate us on our engagement.
They were also the 1st to know I was planning to ask, as I did not want them hearing it elsewhere.

Set 2 are great, really supportive and loving family.
A bit too religious for me maybe but never pushy.

And whatever else I could say about my in-Laws..
I'll leave it at this, they raised fine daughters who I was lucky enough to love and be loved by.
That buys them a lot of leeway in my book

Mrsmum

Really fond of mil. As for the siblings, they and I would definitely not choose each other as friends if we were not related by marriage but we all make it our business to be friendly and it's all pleasant between us.

BrokenArrows

The main problem is what my wife doesnt get on well with her mother. So by default i also dont get on well with her. Shes a bit of a battle axe anyway.
So everytime she comes to visit its just a bunch of tension until one of them snaps and it turns into a shouting match.

Ive said shes not coming to stay at the house anymore. We will see how long that lasts.

LirW

Yes we get on quite well.
I like them very much, they're grand people.
I've come to terms with some cultural differences, so there'll be things I will never understand and it's probably the same the other way around.

valoren

She says I'm like a third son to her. We get on very well. Father in law had a stroke 15 years ago and suffers from early on set dementia. Not much in the way of getting to know each other well sadly beyond polite small talk.

Funnily enough my own mother regards my wife as a daughter (she had three sons but would have loved a daughter).

Lollipops23

My OH's folks are sound out; his mother is incredibly generous and only dying to be a granny (she'll be waiting).