29 and single

LegacyUser

I’m really feeling the pressure to find someone and settle down, im really worried Iv missed the boat already. Iv tried internet dating but found all the men were just looking for sex regardless of if they seemed to be looking for a relationship from their profile. Am I too late? Everyone I know is already in a relationship and I’m starting to feel lonely.

zoobizoo

You're not too late. You're only 29 and there are plenty of other ways to meet guys ......

Realistically you're the right age to be meeting men in their mid to late 30s who want to settle down.

Have your friends fella's got male friends they can introduce you to?

Or have you joined any clubs ? Sure fire winner

completedit

You have s few years left even as a women, so don’t fret. Are you open? Attractive? Is there anybody you know that you kinda like?

dellas1979

completedit wrote: »

You have s few years left even as a women

You do know that women, i.e., human beings, dont have expiry dates on when they meet a partner?

woodchuck

OP it's not too late at all.

Not all men who are internet dating are just looking for sex. But you do have to spend a fair bit of time separating the wheat from the chaff!

Feeling pressured isn't a great reason to find somebody though and that might be coming through to the guys you are talking to, whether you mean it to or not. I know it sounds trite, but if you're genuinely a happy confident person, people will naturally be attracted to that. Do you have any hobbies or are there any you'd be interested in taking up? It might help you feel happier in general and possibly could be a more natural way to meet people (but I wouldn't take something up solely for that purpose - do it for yourself!).

joeguevara

dellas1979 wrote: »

You do know that women, i.e., human beings, dont have expiry dates on when they meet a partner?

I completely understand what you were saying but I don’t think the post you quoted meant any harm. I believe he/she took it from the fact that the op expressed pressure and having kids could have added to that. You could easily argue that a person doesn’t need a partner but they were trying to be helpful.

OP don’t live your life being under pressure to find someone. You have the whole world in front of you with everyone in it. I’m 39 and single and although some days I want a partner I live every day being the best I can be. If it happens it happens.

During my 20s I was in relationships because I wanted to be in a relationship. What I learned was that while I was in love it wasn’t right for me and I wasn’t being me. Don’t settle. Don’t put a time limit. Be sure of yourself and have fun. Don’t put others feelings in jeopardy (even when it wasn’t your intention) by conforming.

Yellow pack crisps

You will even be more lonely if you fall into something because of a stigma of age. You have all the time in the world to meet a guy who you deserve rather than someone who fits a criteria. Don’t focus on meeting someone, focus on yourself and what you like. Focus on what makes you happy.

dellas1979

joeguevara wrote: »

I don’t think the post you quoted meant any harm.

I really dont know (from what my eyes read) what other way it could be taken? Its rather simple (but misspelt) English. The poster might come back and clarify. But that's what I read.

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dellas1979 wrote: »

I really dont know (from what my eyes read) what other way it could be taken?

I think the poster meant that if the OP wants to settle down, get married, and have children, she has time left to do that.

People of all ages meet partners, but there's no point in a woman starting to think about settling down and having kids when she's 45.

zcorpian88

Singleat29 wrote: »

I’m really feeling the pressure to find someone and settle down, im really worried Iv missed the boat already. Iv tried internet dating but found all the men were just looking for sex regardless of if they seemed to be looking for a relationship from their profile. Am I too late? Everyone I know is already in a relationship and I’m starting to feel lonely.

Been feeling the same myself the last 4 years or so. I'm now a 30 year old man and feeling like a complete gargoyle with the whole online dating thing, I'm on POF, Tinder, and Bumble. Tinder is rubbish, Bumble is a little better but I probably use POF more even if I have a have a bit of a love/hate relationship with it, I message anyone I find interesting, hardly getting any responses.

I know for me anyway I'm not interested in hookups OP, even put in a small note at the bottom of my profile stating the fact because a lot of women's profiles I do read give off the assumption that all fellas are into one night hookups, not my style at all, as hard is it is to believe ladies! I like a roll in the hay as much as the next fella, but better to have it in a solid relationship than just riding around.

Sick of being on my own, but on the upside after a really long dry spell dating wise, I had a great date with this Brazilian lady a few weeks back, quite into her, she's been busy with English study and work the last few weeks which I had been helping her a lot with via texts and whatsapp voice messages, she wants to see me/hang out again and is texting me most days, actually dare I say I found her more friendly and sound than any Irish person I dated, I find Irish women to be super guarded, defensive or cynical or something almost like they barely want to be there, sounds bad I know, but no idea if she wants anything to happen, could be another friend zone situation. Beginning to think women haven't a foggiest what they want these days!