Group Chat Etiquette

cormie

I got a private message from a friend after asking if anyone was going to a gig that night, in a group chat we have with other friends (that was ironically set up to arrange offline meetings), saying that my etiquette was bad and I should have waited before the conversation happening at the time was over:




So what do folk think? Do online group chats warrant the same etiquette as real life conversation? I don't think it would have even been that bad to quickly ask when I remembered had it been a real life conversation :pac:

riffmongous

How many people are in the group?

Ficheall

I think the real question here is how do the rest of us go about getting added to that riveting group?

cormie

riffmongous wrote: »

How many people are in the group?

I think 19

seamus

Yeah, it was rude. Like if someone is telling a story about what they did at the weekend and you interrupt them to tell everyone about the even better thing you did.

Even five or ten minutes like, but you threw it into the middle of a conversation.

Deebles McBeebles

Never even heard of that fella either, Corms!

cormie

seamus wrote: »

Yeah, it was rude. Like if someone is telling a story about what they did at the weekend and you interrupt them to tell everyone about the even better thing you did.

Even five or ten minutes like, but you threw it into the middle of a conversation.

So if someone wants to ask if anyone is going to a gig that night while they remember, in a group set up to arrange offline meets, and they only popped on messenger briefly during work, they should wait until the conversation is over and everyone else has seen it, which could take hours, or is there a time frame of silence that should be observed? I mean it was 6 minutes already, how much longer should they wait for inactivity?

Ten of Swords

What's not a full meal like? I must know

riffmongous

cormie wrote: »

I think 19

I think you're grand then, it's not like it was really a conversation you interrupted. It depends on the chat dynamic a bit of course but just throwing it out there seems fine

sbsquarepants

What you really need to do is blank whichever knob end took it upon themselves to school you on etiquette!

Beta Ray Bill

OP

If you're the Admin, boot that person from the group. Problem solved.
Can't stand whinge bags and moaners.... Tell him/her to F*ck off with themselves, 19 people in the group for god sake.

PARlance

No, the person looking to sell the lessons had already got someone who was interested.

If you had jumped in straight after their post, maybe.

But my answer = who cares.

o1s1n

Anyone who contacts you about etiquette in something throwaway like a chat group needs a serious kick up the arse.

threetrees

You were grand. No issue.

Now, what's the etiquette about posting conversation extracts here?

irelandrover

I'd have said its bad ettiquette. Mainly because its just spam in that group.

You interrupted a chat about a meetup in a group setup to arrange offline meetings to try sell something.

SusieBlue

There's about 10 girls in my group chat and it moves at the speed of light. Three conversations could be happening at one time. The topic could change and revert back to the original one ten times over.

I would only consider it to be poor etiquette if you interrupted your friend discussing a personal issue or problem they are having to ask about the gig. That would be bad form, but anything else?
Driving lessons? Life's too short for that kind of drama.

What were you supposed to do, wait indefinitely for them to tie up their transaction before asking? What if it took a few days for that to happen?

Ficheall

irelandrover wrote: »

I'd have said its bad ettiquette. Mainly because its just spam in that group.

You interrupted a chat about a meetup in a group setup to arrange offline meetings to try sell something.

Did you read the OP, as a matter of interest?

irelandrover

cormie wrote: »

I got a private message from a friend after asking if anyone was going to a gig that night, in a group chat we have with other friends (that was ironically set up to arrange offline meetings), saying that my etiquette was bad and I should have waited before the conversation happening at the time was over:




So what do folk think? Do online group chats warrant the same etiquette as real life conversation? I don't think it would have even been that bad to quickly ask when I remembered had it been a real life conversation :pac:

Ficheall wrote: »

Did you read the OP, as a matter of interest?

Yes, I took the bit in bold as meaning the group was setup to arrange meetings. And hence i think interrupting a conversation about a meetup to sell something was bad etiquette.

ohnonotgmail

irelandrover wrote: »

Yes, I took the bit in bold as meaning the group was setup to arrange meetings. And hence i think interrupting a conversation about a meetup to sell something was bad etiquette.

the conversation they "interrupted" was about selling something, not about meeting up.

Wabbit Ears

In fairness I think the other conversation was clearly not over and you did butt in your bit in the middle of it. In a real life conversation it would have been rude AF.

But it wasn't a real world conversation and, while a little bit rude, not something that would warrant a scolding over.

Pyr0

Why do people get annoyed over trivial stuff like this?

irelandrover

I misread it and thought you were selling the driving lessons.

In that case I'd say you're grand and the other guy is out of line

Roger Hassenforder

Really need to see the private message before commenting.

I cant imagine being bothered by that at all, don't think that was rude. It's a group chat not a 2 people only at a time chat

Deebles McBeebles

So far, only 1 person thinks your a c*nt, OP. 21 think you're the best boy!

JohnnyFlash

Never send a dick pick (even an artistically shot one) without asking for permission first.

Deebles McBeebles

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

Never send a dick pick (even an artistically shot one) without asking for permission first.

That one with the beret and the string of onions was a work of art, Johnny.

JohnnyFlash

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

That one with the beret and the string of onions was a work of art, Johnny.

I thought so too, but the Parish Council group certainly didn’t. Apart from Fr. Finnian Tierney. He liked it.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts

Nah, group chats tend towards chaotic and twirly, in my experience.

McMurphy

Group chats are an absolute pain in the hoop.

I was recently added to one that a group of neighbors set up, and am seriously considering leaving a parting message along the lines of "sorry guys, but these group chats aren't really my thing".

And don't even get me started about what way they all react when you accidentally add a bukkakke video to it , that was meant for your mate FFS.

Ray Bloody Purchase

Johnny Dogs wrote: »

Group chats are an absolute pain in the hoop.

I was recently added to one that a group of neighbors set up, and am seriously considering leaving a parting message along the lines of "sorry guys, but these group chats aren't really my thing".

And don't even get me started about what way they all react when you accidentally add a bukkakke video to it , that was meant for your mate FFS.

I doubt it's just group chats who don't want to see you in a bukkakke video.

Deebles McBeebles

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I thought so too, but the Parish Council group certainly didn’t. Apart from Fr. Finnian Tierney. He liked it.

I've heard he's a real Francophile. Think that's what they said anyway.

McMurphy

Ray Bloody Purchase wrote: »

I doubt it's just group chats who don't want to see you in a bukkakke video.

If I ever appear in one and send it on, I'll keep you informed of the feedback I get.

I'd say you'd be wrong though.

Ray Bloody Purchase

Johnny Dogs wrote: »

If I ever appear in one and send it on, I'll keep you informed of the feedback I get.

I'd say you'd be wrong though.

No thanks, my friend.

Each to their own.

Roger Hassenforder

Johnny Dogs wrote: »

If I ever appear in one and send it on, I'll keep you informed of the feedback I get.

I'd say you'd be wrong though.

I'd say you got plenty of feedback on your face.