Do men have trouble dating in early 20s?

noubliezjamais

My male friends in college are telling me that I should date younger because most of their female friends 20-22 are dating older guys.

I've heard it's about maturity and financial stability that younger guys generally don't have compared to older guys.

I've also heard though that it depends on the women.

I'm 20 myself and friends tell me to go for someone 17 or even 16 (just to date not for sex).

gizmo555

noubliezjamais wrote: »

I'm 20 myself and friends tell me to go for someone 17 or even 16 (just to date not for sex).

Are you joking?

noubliezjamais

gizmo555 wrote: »

Are you joking?

No. I don't even pass for 20 according to many people. My mother even says that I should go for 17yr olds given that I'm less mature (still repeating LC, living at home, no friends, never dated before).

I mean to be honest, given my lack of social experience, I don't think I'd do well with someone my age

punisher5112

noubliezjamais wrote: »

My male friends in college are telling me that I should date younger because most of their female friends 20-22 are dating older guys.

I've heard it's about maturity and financial stability that younger guys generally don't have compared to older guys.

I've also heard though that it depends on the women.

I'm 20 myself and friends tell me to go for someone 17 or even 16 (just to date not for sex).

Wtf

Richard Hillman

18 blud. Anything younger is dangertown

punisher5112

Go with whatever floats your boat but forget about underage as they tend to be kids as they're underage !!!!!

Very weird to be honest.

Augme

noubliezjamais wrote: »

No. I don't even pass for 20 according to many people. My mother even says that I should go for 17yr olds given that I'm less mature (still repeating LC, living at home, no friends, never dated before).

I mean to be honest, given my lack of social experience, I don't think I'd do well with someone my age

You'll just end up with a reputation as a kiddy fiddler.

punisher5112

Your only as old as the Yang one yar feelin....


Seriously if ya think it's ok to go off with a 16 year old at 20 odd years old then best of luck in the clink.

Twenty Grand

What the f*ck is going on?

You're 20, like 3rd year college. You going to date a TY student?

noubliezjamais

Twenty Grand wrote: »

What the f*ck is going on?

You're 20, like 3rd year college. You going to date a TY student?

I'm actually repeating the LC. Will be doing it when I'm 21

endacl

noubliezjamais wrote: »

I'm actually repeating the LC. Will be doing it when I'm 21

Maybe just focus on that for the time being...

gizmo555

noubliezjamais wrote: »

I mean to be honest, given my lack of social experience, I don't think I'd do well with someone my age

If it came to my attention that my 16 year old daughter was being dated by you, I'd be calling the guards.

Dial Hard

Not sure what people's issue with 17 is, it's the age of consent. Also, I think it's probably pretty fair to say that the OP would have more in common with this age group than his own. Having said that, most girls around that age are interested in slightly older guys *because* they're that bit more mature, whereas the OP sounds very young for his age.

ExoPolitic

Don't worry, you'll get to my age (very late 20's) and the early 20's girls will want you, and so will the mid 30's ladies... it's very strange!

iptba

When she was 15, my sister went out with a guy who was 18 for around a year. No one had any problems with that. Though that was in more innocent times when few people in school, except maybe people who weren't too focused on education, were having sex.

The old rule of thumb was that on average males would be 2 years older than females that they were dating. Presumably there was quite a bit of variation in this.

Hedgelayer

The best age for dating for a guy is around 42,as most of the attractive single separated and divorced women are less superficial and needy, they're more mature and have better social skills than the younger ladies.

I wouldn't date a woman that's under 37 i just don't find them attractive....

PsychoPete

Whiff of Chris Hansen about this

Das Reich

The rule in my country is half of your age plus 10.

Man on his 20 will date a woman with 20. On his 30 a woman with 25. Then 40 and 30. 50 and 35. 60 and 40.

I was 32 when I met my wife that was 20 at the time.

Stoner

If you are 21 doing your leaving cert then get that sorted rather than looking to date, that's coming up and you are being needinessly distracted.

Get into college or a job after that and then try dating

At 21 you should be in third level, that will bring you on. You've kids all around you and most likely some young person advised you to date a 16 year old and that it's ok.
People can tell you that you look young all they want, but you know what age you are so you'd need to act that age as best as possible

Finish school, finish that part of your life and then leave it behind you.

Good luck in the exams, aim high.

killanena

I'm 25 and younger girls, from as low as 15.. To 21 or so do tend to be very flirty with me, good few of my friends would experience the same. I just think these girls find more mature looking but young men more attractive as it's about when males meet there peak.

I'm already engaged and have started a family but I know lads who exploit this. Especially if they have a nice car.

Strumms

noubliezjamais wrote: »

No. I don't even pass for 20 according to many people. My mother even says that I should go for 17yr olds given that I'm less mature (still repeating LC, living at home, no friends, never dated before).

I mean to be honest, given my lack of social experience, I don't think I'd do well with someone my age

I think by virtue of what you posted, you need not worry about dating. You have more immediate issues then just being single. As a 20 year old adult, you see nothing wrong with dating minors, what’s of equal concern is it’s being advocated by your mother.. Get yourself a good psychologist and start some process where you can get some help.

X6.430macman

From a social point of view I can see where the OP is coming from, being a few years older means you are a bit more matured and advanced and may put you on an equal level to the girl as maybe they would be more advanced socially