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Change in circumstances - child maintenance

  • 12-04-2019 06:15PM
    #1
    edenbridge146
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 153 ✭✭


    Hi folks

    Hope you can shed some advice

    Back in 2014 myself and wife separated. At the time I earned 60k and she earned 20k. At mediation we agreed that i would pay 75 per week per child AND half the mortgage on the family home along with half the expenses for Christmas, back to school etc.
    I also pay the VHI for the ex wife and the 2 kids

    Fast forward to 2019 and her income has doubled. She now earns 40k. I'm still on same salary.

    In addition to full time work She also runs a holistic massage business from the home earning 50 an hour cash in the evening and weekends. She gets about 10 appts a week

    Our son is now in college also getting a SUSI grant of 300 a month which he wasn't getting at time of mediation - should this be taken in to account too ?

    To be honest - i'm broke. I have nothing left and now staying in relatives place rent free. I pay the guts of 1400 a month. My 15 year old car is dying and i rely on to for work while the ex is in a new 191 car ....

    There's no set access - as i work shift work but the kids who are 15 and 19 often stay over when I'm off. I drive them to football matches etc as i live 20 minutes from the family home. Don't mind as means i get more time with them

    I'm afraid to try and approach this in case i come out worse off

    Any advice or suggestions ??


Comments

  • #2
    Ken.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,898 ✭✭✭✭Ken.


    What are relations with your ex like. Could ye have a chat. Maybe try mediation. If yere not on speaking terms then I'm afraid its solicitor time.


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