How do I tackle this?

Red Lightning

I was wondering if ye could help me out with my latest issue instead of starting a new thread.
Got chatting to a girl through instagram a year or so ago through a mutual interest. We became friends and she was seeing s fella at the time. I fancied her but obviously wouldn't try anything when she was with him. She broke up with him a few months back and I helped her through the break up. We have never met but we have both suggested it, her initially while she was with this her ex. Nothing untoward, our mutual interest is mental health awareness. Now since she broke up with him, I'm trying to get to meet her sooner rather than later. We don't chat much online and we send each other snaps now and again. I'm not getting a massive vibe that she may like me but I want to meet her anyway and see if anything blossoms. She suggested us go to a music festival together a few weeks back which is a good sign not she's been quite since. We're about 3 hours away from each other. How would people tackle this? Thanks

Charles Ingles

You are in the friend zone nothing will blossom from this.

Red Lightning

Charles Ingles wrote:

You are in the friend zone nothing will blossom from this.

Challenge accepted.

Charles Ingles

Red Lightning wrote: »

Challenge accepted.

Won't happen buddy

Dial Hard

Tbh I'd be consigning this one to the never going to happen bin. The distance alone is enough of an issue. Add to that the fact that you're over-invested and she doesn't seem that pushed and it's just all a bit too marginal OP, sorry.

Big Bag of Chips

You're chatting over a year. She broke up with the fella a few months ago and still hasn't arranged to meet up. It's all very easy to suggest things and make plan it's another altogether to carry through on them.

Why not suggest you go to visit her town in the next couple of weeks? If she's keen to see you she will be delighted. If she's not bothered she'll be vague about details or have other plans...

Carrying on a text relationship without it developing to anything else makes you modern day penpals. Nothing more.

Red Lightning

Bit the bullet and asked her out. We're going out week after next. Thanks for all the advice folks.

joeguevara

Well done on asking her out. Don't bring up ex boyfriend or helping her out. Start with a clean slate and see how it goes. Distance may be an issue but maybe not.

Eircom_Sucks

Red Lightning wrote: »

I was wondering if ye could help me out with my latest issue instead of starting a new thread.
Got chatting to a girl through instagram a year or so ago through a mutual interest. We became friends and she was seeing s fella at the time. I fancied her but obviously wouldn't try anything when she was with him. She broke up with him a few months back and I helped her through the break up. We have never met but we have both suggested it, her initially while she was with this her ex. Nothing untoward, our mutual interest is mental health awareness. Now since she broke up with him, I'm trying to get to meet her sooner rather than later. We don't chat much online and we send each other snaps now and again. I'm not getting a massive vibe that she may like me but I want to meet her anyway and see if anything blossoms. She suggested us go to a music festival together a few weeks back which is a good sign not she's been quite since. We're about 3 hours away from each other. How would people tackle this? Thanks

3 hrs helllll nooo

Green&Red

Red Lightning wrote: »

Bit the bullet and asked her out. We're going out week after next. Thanks for all the advice folks.

Good man, if you were to listen to some of the advice here you'd never date anyone.
Maybe not a music festival for date one, it'll be awkward as hell cause ye kinda know each other but dont really
And as someone else said avoid any conversation about the ex completely

Red Lightning

Green&Red wrote:

Good man, if you were to listen to some of the advice here you'd never date anyone. Maybe not a music festival for date one, it'll be awkward as hell cause ye kinda know each other but dont really And as someone else said avoid any conversation about the ex completely

Thanks. We'll probably grab a coffee and go for a walk or something. Nice and chilled where we can have a laugh.