Are you a very dependant person?

Sabrebo

Loads of people describe themselves as a very independent person, is there anyone out there who would describe themself as a very dependent person?

Edgware

Berties_Horse wrote: »

I'm dependent on Joe Duffy for mindless solace.

Mindless would have covered it

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I'm dependant on having sufficient dosh to keep me independent.


Everybody is dependant on somebody, or something, in order to survive.

Junkyard Tom

My Missus says I am.

dartboardio

Im too independent at times.or maybe just a loner!

I'm an only child and spent aloooot of time alone so I'm fairly comfortable being alone. Apart from my partner and mother i barely see or speak to anyone for weeks

johnnyfoxy

Yep. I'm going to say that anyway.

metaoblivia

Sabrebo wrote: »

Loads of people describe themselves as a very independant person, is there anyone out there who would describe rhemself as a very dependant person?

I don't think you'll find too many people who would phrase it like that, but I know a lot of people who will admit to not being able to do certain activities alone, like go to the movies or travel. I can't tell you the number of times I've told someone about something innocuous that I did on my own only to have them reply, "Oh, I could never do that by myself."

dartboardio

metaoblivia wrote: »

I don't think you'll find too many people who would phrase it like that, but I know a lot of people who will admit to not being able to do certain activities alone, like go to the movies or travel. I can't tell you the number of times I've told someone about something innocuous that I did on my own only to have them reply, "Oh, I could never do that by myself."

Yeah. Its mad, i seen people in such disbelief that a woman im friends with on facebook had gone to rome alone.. I suppose they feel uncomfortable alone in public? Weird..

Where as I love days off where I get to wander around town alone.. Go for lunch on my own etc and just enjoy my own company.

Force Carrier

It depends.

Strumms

dartboardio wrote: »

Im too independent at times.or maybe just a loner!

I'm an only child and spent aloooot of time alone so I'm fairly comfortable being alone. Apart from my partner and mother i barely see or speak to anyone for weeks

Ditto, so being alone never caused me any difficulties. I have a good close knit circle of friends and by and large good family. But unlike some people I don’t crave attention or human company. If I need to travel for work...sure I’ll miss them a bit but I’m not on the phone every 5 mins or whatsapping the shît out of them. There seems in my view to be something weird and psychologically amiss with folks who freak out at the idea of being alone for any length of time.

Strumms

metaoblivia wrote: »

I don't think you'll find too many people who would phrase it like that, but I know a lot of people who will admit to not being able to do certain activities alone, like go to the movies or travel. I can't tell you the number of times I've told someone about something innocuous that I did on my own only to have them reply, "Oh, I could never do that by myself."

In another job Monday was my day off and EVERYONE who I knew in the world was working.. so 99% of the time I spent the day alone... head into town, pay bills, shopping, whatever...often I’d go into the IFI and watch a film even. I was surprised initially by the number of folks there apparently in the same situation or similar.

NSAman

The only thing I am dependent on are clients.

I am very independent and like Strumms above don’t see being alone as a curse. I love my alone time. Having been dependent on people most of my life, I find independence to be liberating and exciting.

Its nice not to have to be dependent on anyone to do things, to HAVE to have someone there to do things for you.

If in later life I have to be dependent on anyone through stroke or any other reason, I have left instructions not to be resuscitated. I do not want to be a burden on anyone either family or friends.

Sam Quentin

Some people are very needy(knowingly or unknowingly)they can call themselves independent if they like,but I take that statement like a pinch of salt,.I know some real independent people who would never utter such a sentiment towards themselves, it's not something they would feel the need to tell the world about!? They may have 'fallen' into their position in life through turbulent times, through choice etc who knows .but you look at them and you know they can handle anything and need nobody,.. they are not sad or depressed but very happy within themselves,and willing to help needy people with a smile....
I travel alone and don't usually mention it,just a few wee midweek breaks here and there,. anyway when I have dared to mention it sometimes I would get what looks like a sneer type of grin and a comment something like, God dont think I could do that, or,. awwww right fair play etc etc .. I actually wait for the reaction as I tell them I'm traveling alone.. don't get me wrong some people will say it's the only way to travel.

Your Face

Depends on the weather

Strumms

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Some people are very needy(knowingly or unknowingly)they can call themselves independent if they like,but I take that statement like a pinch of salt,.I know some real independent people who would never utter such a sentiment towards themselves, it's not something they would feel the need to tell the world about!? They may have 'fallen' into their position in life through turbulent times, through choice etc who knows .but you look at them and you know they can handle anything and need nobody,.. they are not sad or depressed but very happy within themselves,and willing to help needy people with a smile....
I travel alone and don't usually mention it,just a few wee midweek breaks here and there,. anyway when I have dared to mention it sometimes I would get what looks like a sneer type of grin and a comment something like, God dont think I could do that, or,. awwww right fair play etc etc .. I actually wait for the reaction as I tell them I'm traveling alone.. don't get me wrong some people will say it's the only way to travel.

I can relate hugely, I think the negative sneering remarks that having that sort of comfortable independent streak solicits from some people is rather a defense mechanism on their behalf knowing deep down if they were of the same lifestyle they couldn’t function or cope. No doubt off calling their mates saying ahhhh this chap or girl is some weird loner etc. people can you see be threatened by independence...be it of independent thinking, lifestyle, actions etc... because they just don’t have the personal resources in the manner of assertiveness, understanding or ability to be far from the maddening crowd.

JupiterKid

I’ve travelled solo many times and it’s been grand, but I do need company and social interaction with other humans on a weekly basis. I wouldn’t call myself needy, but very long periods of complete solitude for me (at this stage in my life anyway) would not be good for my mental health.

I envy Matt Damon’s character in the film The Martian. Being utterly alone - 120 million kilometres from home - and totally self sufficient. Now that’s real solitude.

pleas advice

Strumms wrote: »

I can relate hugely, I think the negative sneering remarks that having that sort of comfortable independent streak solicits from some people is rather a defense mechanism on their behalf knowing deep down if they were of the same lifestyle they couldn’t function or cope. people can be threatened by independence because they just don’t have the personal resources in the manner of assertiveness, understanding or ability to be far from the maddening crowd.

the lady doth protest too much, methinks...

I'd be very dependent on a few small things myself, Its hard to know how independent I am, some acquaintances might be more important than i give them credit for

Pac1Man

I am a strong, confident, independent black woman who don't need no man.

Ariadne

I need a lot of alone time but I'd be quite dependant on people emotionally. Sometimes physically when I'm ill or avoidant.

IamtheWalrus

All begins in childhood

https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html

I used to be very emotionally dependent and it was to my detriment. Now I am the opposite. I think I got enough of a fright with past experiences when I saw how quickly the source of dependency can be taken away. Now I am my number one person. There is some sadness to it though. It would be nice to rely on others just a bit more but I can't. The upside is that I'm very resilient and for that I'm grateful

fonecrusher1

Berties_Horse wrote: »

I'm dependent on Joe Duffy for mindless solace.

Listening to that sad oul whinging, talentless overpaid tax drain brings you solace? Christ almighty. Chilling.

Capt'n Midnight

As David Niven said of Errol Flynn - "Error was totally dependable. He would always let you down"

Outlaw Pete

Nope, I live in my Prius, and only eat freegan food.