Trying to find a place to live after separation

sprangebeanie · 25-03-2019 4:17pm #1

So I went through a messy break up. I was pushed out of the family home. I wasn't earning as I was minding our children so I had no income. I stayed with relatives and my ex asked me to look after the kids everyday after school and do all the cleaning etc which I have been doing and in return he gives me a small bit of money to get me through.

I was supposed to be having the children full time when I had my own place sorted but he has since changed his mind on that and wants to have them live with him. That I plan to fight him on when I get myself sorted.

I'm pregnant, from my new partner, I have no where to live, I'm sofa surfing basically, I'm extremely worried and overwhelmed by everything right now, I haven't got an address to apply for benefits and my partner is finding it hard to rent a place as it seems to be a lot harder these days, lots of checks, What can I do? Is there any way I can get benefits with no address?

In terms of landlord references also, I living previously with my ex husband in a property for 5 years, but my ex paid the rent. The landlord knew we split up so I can't really use him as my reference for the next place can I?

Any advice would be appreciated as I'm completely at a lose for what to do

Charles Ingles · 25-03-2019 4:19pm

What the story with new partner?
He should be stepping up to look after you and his child you are carrying

sprangebeanie · 25-03-2019 4:22pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

What the story with new partner?
He should be stepping up to look after you and his child you are carrying

He has moved over from the UK just recently and he has a job here. He is trying to find a place but he is finding it difficult, other people are being chosen over us

Charles Ingles · 25-03-2019 4:37pm

Only one thing for it.
Go homeless, he can give up his job you can both live in a hotel paid for by the state until they have a house for you.

sprangebeanie · 25-03-2019 4:43pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Only one thing for it.
Go homeless, he can give up his job you can both live in a hotel paid for by the state until they have a house for you.

Where do I go to for that? Focus Ireland?

Charles Ingles · 25-03-2019 4:52pm

Yes if you ring them they will pick you up and bring you to a hotel of your choice.
Make sure your boyfriend gives up his job first and gets on the dole

punisher5112 · 25-03-2019 4:54pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Yes if you ring them they will pick you up and bring you to a hotel of your choice.
Make sure your boyfriend gives up his job first and gets on the dole

That's terrible advice.

Charles Ingles · 25-03-2019 4:56pm

punisher5112 wrote: »

That's terrible advice.

You think the op is genuine?

sprangebeanie · 25-03-2019 4:56pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Yes if you ring them they will pick you up and bring you to a hotel of your choice.
Make sure your boyfriend gives up his job first and gets on the dole

Why would he have to give up his job? Surely that would be a step backwards?

sprangebeanie · 25-03-2019 4:59pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

You think the op is genuine?

Genuine? I'm trying to find a way to live, I'm gonna avoid the homeless route, it will be there as a final resort.

25-03-2019 5:00pm

punisher5112 wrote: »

That's terrible advice.

Pretty sure his comment has traces of sarcasm in there.. or so I hope.

Tiddlypeeps · 25-03-2019 5:02pm

Have you checked if you are entitled to alimony? I'm not sure what your marital status was with your ex, but if you were co-habiting and had multiple children you'd be at least classified as common-law, this may mean you are entitled to alimony.

Loveinapril · 25-03-2019 5:07pm

Tiddlypeeps wrote: »

Have you checked if you are entitled to alimony? I'm not sure what your marital status was with your ex, but if you were co-habiting and had multiple children you'd be at least classified as common-law, this may mean you are entitled to alimony.

Why should the OP, who does not have custody of her children, is unlikely to be paying maintenance due to no income, is in a new relationship and pregnant with her new partner's child be entitled to any payment from her ex?

OP, you can get benefits with no fixed address. Go to a social welfare office and they will give you details about which office you can attend to collect a payment. And of course your old landlord could give you a reference, once you were on the lease.

punisher5112 · 25-03-2019 5:18pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Pretty sure his comment has traces of sarcasm in there.. or so I hope.

My sarcasm radar is a little off today.....

If it was then carry on....

Trying to find a place to live after separation

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