Keeping the last voice mail of someone who has died

bobbyss

If you have a loved one who has passed away would you keep their last voice mail to you? I did but I rarely listened to it. Eventually I deleted it. I thought it was the right thing to do. What do you think?

aaronjumper

I probably would, for a time.
More than likely interfere with the grieving process though, you have to let go eventually.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

It wouldn't even occur to me to keep it. At my age I have lost many near and dear to me who would have left voice messages. As I usually delete voice messages pretty quickly, I don't recall having to delete any after a death but I don't think I'd hesitate to do so. I have plenty of other ways to remember them.

NIMAN

bobbyss wrote: »

If you have a loved one who has passed away would you keep their last voice mail to you? I did but I rarely listened to it. Eventually I deleted it. I thought it was the right thing to do. What do you think?

I don't keep any voicemail so it would be unlikely if a family member or a friend died I'd have a saved voicemail from them.

To be honest, I wouldn't even if I had the chance.

Recently I heard a recording my dad made maybe 30 or 35 years ago (he's dead nearly 26 yrs now) and it's the first time I'd heard his voice since he died. He sounded strange to me, and I remember thinking to myself when I heard it, "jez I don't remember dad sounding like that".

But it's not something I'll go back and listen to again I think.

bobbyss

Yes that's what I thought too. Better to move on and remember in your own way. And remember voices too.

MarkY91

My dad died 11 years ago. I haven't heard his voice since. I have memories in my head of how he sounded but like a previous poster, it's likely different than what I think I actually remember. My auntie has a camcorder footage of us all on the Christmas before Hsi death that for one reason or another,, nobody watched yet. Someday it will happen and I'm dead certain that it will be painful to hear and see him as opposed to just having the memories in my head.

Probably best to let yourself let go naturally and not replay voicemails like you see in the movies. They're just actors but the characters they're playing are always clearly struggling to move on and seem a little dead inside.

razorblunt

My mother passed away in 2002, she had just gotten her first mobile (an old one of mine). I broke my new phone about 6 months after she died so I used her one for a while. I'd forgotten she had set a voicemail greeting rather than use the generic one. My Dad called once and it completely knocked him for six, I'll never forget his face as he asked me to make sure I deleted that. I never listened to it myself I was afraid I'd never delete it.

SEPT 23 1989

Lana Happy Registry wrote: »

It wouldn't even occur to me to keep it. At my age I have lost many near and dear to me who would have left voice messages. As I usually delete voice messages pretty quickly, I don't recall having to delete any after a death but I don't think I'd hesitate to do so. I have plenty of other ways to remember them.

You must have kept some of the old telegrams you received Lana Happy Registry