Dating someone with a disability

Bigbagofcans

I stumbled upon this couple's YouTube videos and the love between them is amazing to see. More laughter between them than the average "able-bodied" couple.

She is able-bodied and he was born with the neuromuscular disease spinal muscular atrophy, meaning he can't walk, move his arms or legs, and did not develop into a full-size man.

Could you do it?

https://www.insideedition.com/disabled-man-and-able-bodied-girlfriend-document-relationship-show-just-how-ordinary-it-49921

Omackeral

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

She is able-bodied and he was born with the neuromuscular disease spinal muscular atrophy, meaning he can't walk, move his arms or legs, and did not develop into a full-size man.

Could you do it?

What, walk? Yeah. I do most days.

Red_Wake

Ask my missus.

She ran off with a paraplegic.

branie2

If I was dating, I would

EmmetSpiceland

I could see past a physical disability, to a certain extent, but I would draw the line at mental disabilities.

Even some of the less obvious ones.

oLoonatic

not with a disability to that extent.

Apiarist

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

...draw the line at mentali disabilities.

Even some of the less obvious ones.

Such as a mild case of dysgraphia?

Mr. CooL ICE

A quadriplegic man was lying by himself on a beach, looking at the sea. A beautiful woman walked up to him and asked if he was ok

"I'm fine, but I've never been hugged before"

The woman gave him a hug, and went on her way. A few minutes later, another beautiful woman walked up to him and asked if he was ok

"I'm fine, but I've never been kissed before"

The woman gave him a kiss, and went on her way. Another few minutes later, another beautiful woman came up to him and asked if he was ok

"I'm fine, but I've never been fcuked before"

The woman replied:

"Well, you're fcuked now. The tides coming in"

EmmetSpiceland

victor8600 wrote: »

Such as a mild case of dysgraphia?

I don’t believe a simple typo constitutes dysgraphia. And I wouldn’t have an issue dating someone with dyslexia or dysgraphia.

I would however have issues with someone who couldn’t use their indoor voice or would get into extended pendantic arguments over silly details.

Others can go for that sort of thing if they wish, like the way girls who grew up with horses tend to go for those cold focused types.

mad muffin

FÜCK no! :eek:

Deebles McBeebles

Omackeral wrote: »

What, walk? Yeah. I do most days.

Did you grow into a full-size man too? :pac:

enfant terrible

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wj0gHSPA4GA

Ariadne

I guess it depends on the disability the person has but also how I felt about them. If they needed 24/7 care it probably wouldn't work because I have a condition of my own and need help from time to time. I have a progressive degenerative disease and I think I'd be more open to dating someone with a disability because health is not a guarantee for any of us.

Mike Oxlong

I've seen the Irish Gogglebox and there are a happy couple on it, she's able bodied, he's in a wheelchair, no idea what his disability is...but they seem to have a good chemistry on tv and it works for them... different strokes for different folks

Canis Lupus

Depends on severity but mostly no.

As to that couple, I dunno, you can tell me true love and all that shyte but a pretty girl picking someone like him makes me think she's not quite right herself mentally, maybe a bad experience in the past etc and wheelchair dude is 'safe' or he could be rich.

BeerWolf

Someone with a congenital disease? No.

If I were to have kids I wouldn't want to risk them having it.

poisonated

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

I could see past a physical disability, to a certain extent, but I would draw the line at mental disabilities.

Even some of the less obvious ones.

You’re so kind.

Honestly? No.

Of course, if you fell in love with someone and they suffered a serious injury, that's totally diffferent. But I would genuinely struggle to fall for someone with a serious disability, which I am aware reflects poorly on myself.

Just a suspicion, but I reckon there may be a pretty huge disparity between attitudes towards this question between males and females.

Woke Hogan

"Disabled Man and Able-Bodied Girlfriend Document Relationship to Show Just How Ordinary It Is"


It's clearly an extra-ordinary relationship of some sort if they feel compelled to document it.

Zorya

Yeah, I watched that video yesterday. Was really torn between all sorts of responses, some of which make me feel like a real bitch. The guy seems very funny, witty, sharp, which is attractive. Nice guy. They seem to have the whole self deprecating self aware humour down to a tee. Maybe she does really love him, it's possible?
I wondered from the get go how they have sex, if they have sex. It might work for someone with a very low libido. Someone who likes to cuddle a child sized person. Hmm...see the bitch starting ...
Nah, in the end I did not believe it. They may love each other, for sure, but it cannot really be sexual passion - it's a platonic sort of love. And nothing wrong with that at all. There are all sorts of different kinds of love, and love between friends can be very deep, very meaningful. But she is his carer, like his mammy, from the very beginning. It's not like he became injured or impaired later, which is different, in my opinion. Then you would go on out of loyalty and remembrance.

So, no, I would not date in that circumstance from the outset. That's not to say I would not love someone with disability. But the physical part of a relationship is important to me.

Frank O. Pinion

Woke Hogan wrote: »

It's clearly an extra-ordinary relationship of some sort if they feel compelled to document it.

Why did you hyphenate the word "extraordinary"?

Woke Hogan

Frank O. Pinion wrote: »

Why did you hyphenate the word "extraordinary"?

Because I can do what-ever the **** I want.

jimgoose

I'd have no interest in someone disabled to the extent of that gentleman in the video. I also don't believe that that magnificent cut of a woman has any sexual interest in him, it simply isn't possible.

Frank O. Pinion

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Because I can do what-ever the **** I want.

Well, you can certainly look like a moron, that's for sure. Good for you.

Woke Hogan

Frank O. Pinion wrote: »

Well, you can certainly look like a moron, that's for sure. Good for you.

Go back to your Star Trek cartoons good man.

Sephiroth_dude

Frank O. Pinion wrote: »

Well, you can certainly look like a moron, that's for sure. Good for you.

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Go back to your Star Trek cartoons good man.

Mod

Keep it Civil please, one and only warning.

Bigbagofcans

jimgoose wrote: »

I'd have no interest in someone disabled to the extent of that gentleman in the video. I also don't believe that that magnificent cut of a woman has any sexual interest in him, it simply isn't possible.

Maybe she just doesn't have much of a libido and she seems to be happy with their arrangement.

She was the one who contacted him first, having seen his videos. He is very charismatic I have to say.

upinsmoke

Depends if they were very old and had a lot of money. Gummy jobs are meant to be amazing

Grayson

jimgoose wrote: »

I'd have no interest in someone disabled to the extent of that gentleman in the video. I also don't believe that that magnificent cut of a woman has any sexual interest in him, it simply isn't possible.

Maybe she does fancy him sexually. Personally I find a persons personality the biggest turn on or off.

Ok, that's a small bit of an exaggeration. Even if they were really nice and smart, if they stank of BO because they never washed, I'd never touch them.

But besides that kind of thing, personality is the biggest thing for me.

Wibbs

There's also this chap, Nick Vujicic. no arms or legs, married with a couple of kids.



One of the most upbeat human beings you could find.

jimgoose

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

Maybe she just doesn't have much of a libido and she seems to be happy with their arrangement.

She was the one who contacted him first, having seen his videos. He is very charismatic I have to say.

Maybe so. She must have an extraordinarily low libido though, a woman like that with a normal sex drive wouldn't usually be hanging around there too long.

Ariadne

I could overlook no arms or legs but no working willy would be a tough one for me, not going to lie

eviltwin

Succubus_ wrote: »

I could overlook no arms or legs but no working willy would be a tough one for me, not going to lie

Ditto. I couldn't be with someone who couldnt have sex with me and I know there are non sexual ways of being intimate but I have my needs.

jimgoose

Succubus_ wrote: »

...no working willy would be a tough one for me, not going to lie

eviltwin wrote: »

Ditto. I couldn't be with someone who couldnt have sex with me...

Pure hate speech against those unfortunates with bollixed hydraulics or a deficiency in the pork-sword department. For shame!

EmmetSpiceland

poisonated wrote: »

You’re so kind.

I don’t know what you expect from me here. Would you prefer it if I would be open to a relationship with some like I’ve mentioned above?

I don’t see how it would do either of us any good.

Edgware

upinsmoke wrote: »

Depends if they were very old and had a lot of money. Gummy jobs are meant to be amazing[/quotalo
I know the dementia adds a thrill but would you ever leave your granny alone?

Deja Boo

Wibbs wrote: »

There's also this chap, Nick Vujicic. no arms or legs, married with a couple of kids.



One of the most upbeat human beings you could find.

His short film, The Butterfly Circus is well worth a watch!

....."you are spectacular!" - lovely scene!

poisonated

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

I don’t know what you expect from me here. Would you prefer it if I would be open to a relationship with some like I’ve mentioned above?

I don’t see how it would do either of us any good.

It’s pretty ignorant to say that you wouldn’t go out with someone who had a mental disability. Mental disabilities don’t define people. There are good people with mental disabilities, just so you know.

cannotlogin

You fall for who you fall for.

kowloon

Maybe he can lick his eyebrows.

EmmetSpiceland

poisonated wrote: »

It’s pretty ignorant to say that you wouldn’t go out with someone who had a mental disability. Mental disabilities don’t define people. There are good people with mental disabilities, just so you know.

No it isn’t. And I never said that they defined anyone.

With a vast number of mental disabilities there would be an issue of consent and I already expressed my belief of incompatibility with those who would have less severe ones.

poisonated

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

No it isn’t. And I never said that they defined anyone.

With a vast number of mental disabilities there would be an issue of consent and I already expressed my belief of incompatibility with those who would have less severe ones.

It really is though. It’s a blanket statement and a massive generalization.

EmmetSpiceland

poisonated wrote: »

It really is though. It’s a blanket statement and a massive generalization.

Look, you can get into relationships with someone who’s got a mental disability. That’s fine. Well, as long as they can consent. But I don’t have to.