Disfigured dating

simone79

Hi just a question that's been on my mind how many men out there would consider dating a woman who is disfigured example a lady who has lost one eye and wears a eye patch....just curious

Dial Hard

Men aren't a hive mind so no-one can answer that question for you on behalf of anyone but themselves.

However, and I mean this in the nicest possible way, I think if you're asking this in relation to yourself, you need to completely park the idea of dating for quite some time and do a bit of work on your self-esteem and boundaries. You're just out of a horrendous marriage of convenience and iirc your previous relationship was abusive too. If you even attempt dating now my fear is that you are absolutely ripe for the plucking by another abuser.

You need to invest some time in yourself. Give yourself time to heal, go to counselling, figure out who you are and why you have allowed people to treat you as they have. It's the biggest cliche in the book but it's also probably the truest - until you are happy alone you will never be happy with someone else.

I genuinely wish you the best of luck.

holystungun9

Absolutely. Wouldn't bother me for even a second. General character and attitude of a partner are always the deal breaker.

ted1

simone79 wrote: »

Hi just a question that's been on my mind how many men out there would consider dating a woman who is disfigured example a lady who has lost one eye and wears a eye patch....just curious

I’d have no problem with it.

tara73

as much as I understand you would like to have a clear picture here, like for example 80 % wouldn't care and 20 % would, I don't think it's a realistic answer to get.

there are people out there who don't care at all, who wold look up your personality and go from there and then there are people who are more superficial if you would like to call it like that and distance themselves from people with physical issues like that.

so it all depends on meeting the right person and that's not really any different from people who don't have a physical disadvantage.

dudara

Several posts have been deleted as I have doubts about the sincereness of the posts, and I am looking further into it.

I would gently like to remind all posters that the purpose of the PI forum is to be helpful.

dudara

simone79

What do you mean you have issues with the sincerity of the pists

dudara

simone79 wrote: »

What do you mean you have issues with the sincerity of the pists

Nothing to do with you. Some of the responses from other posters were dubious.

simone79

Oh om

Ursus Horribilis

Simone, if there is any post on this thread to take heed of, it's Dial Hard's one. There's a reason why it got 32 thanks. Anyone who read your threads about your husband will know that the worst thing you could possibly do for now is seek out another relationship. Please tell us you're now in counselling and working on yourself. That's the path to be taking for now, not running the high risk of entering another abusive relationship.

simone79

Thank you no I'm not looming to date at all and im in therapy yes it's helping me alot no I was just wondering for myself for future what way I'd find dating ice absolutely no intentions of dating for a year at least thank you all for your replies it means alot xxx

Jurgen Klopp

Im honestly not being smart but if you lost an eye would a glass eye matching the colour of the other one be an option for you if it's a thing the patch makes you self conscious?

To answer your question, no it wouldn't bother me if I liked the girl

simone79

No a prosthetic is not an option for me due to the socket damage unfortunately

LegacyUser

Hi Simone
I’m in a similar position to yourself except my disfigurement is easy to hide. I think it depends on the guy. Iv met guys who proud themselves on ‘not being shallow’ thinking that is a nice way to approach it. I much prefer guys who are straight up about whether or not they like you as a whole package warts and all. If your just out of an abusive relationship you are probably seeking validation and need to be careful. Try to turn in towards yourself rather than looking for it outside. Try to nurture your self esteem and build a life worth living regardless of who else is in it or out of it, very hard as I’m doing it myself right now but that’s my advice.

simone79

Yes thanks I'm trying to focus on my self I did something to set me back I went online just to see if my ex husband was on it and sure enough he had a profile setup only 6 weeks after ending the marraige this was a huge slap in the face for me seeing that

Emme

simone79 wrote: »

No a prosthetic is not an option for me due to the socket damage unfortunately

Is this up to date advice? There are advances being made in aesthetics all the time. Maybe get a second opinion and don't give up.

You need to take this year out to work on yourself, your self-confidence and exploring new social avenues. Dating isn't the be-all and end-all. Work on yourself, aim to make new friends and see how that goes.