Waiting to be happy

Greengrant

Are you waiting to be happy or are you happy right now?

mistress_gi

I am medium happy. Could be happier but could be much less happy.
I hope you appreciate my contribution to this thread, that would significantly increase my general level of happiness

Outkast_IRE

Greengrant wrote: »

Are you waiting to be happy or are you happy right now?

Happy right now. Happiness is not something for most that will just naturally happen. You need to pursue your own dreams and goals, most important is to take pleasure in the small things in life such as a stroll with the dog, the lovely smell of the air on a crisp winters morning etc.

BeerWolf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hD8LgbJVNGQ

arybvtcw0eolkf

I'm happy.

I think most people can make the choice whether to be miserable or happy.

It's human nature not to be completely contented I think.
It's largely a choice to be happy or not depending on your outlook........if there's no serious sh1t going on one should be able to positively change their outlook towards happiness over time

Graces7

Zaiden Wrong Snack wrote: »

I'm happy.

I think most people can make the choice whether to be miserable or happy.

someone defined it as being happy in your own skin. I am happy in that meaning. so much to be thankful for and content in ...

Kevin Finnerty

Outkast_IRE wrote: »

Happy right now. Happiness is not something for most that will just naturally happen. You need to pursue your own dreams and goals, most important is to take pleasure in the small things in life such as a stroll with the dog, the lovely smell of the air on a crisp winters morning etc.

Until they dump on the path and you've got to get down there with a bag in one hand and holding your nose with the other because you can actually see the smell rising up to meet you.

amcalester

I'm happy, but not necessarily content. There are things I would like to do with my life that I have not yet done, but not having done them does not make me unhappy.

Outkast_IRE

Kevin Finnerty wrote: »

Until they dump on the path and you've got to get down there with a bag in one hand and holding your nose with the other because you can actually see the smell rising up to meet you.

If my only problem in life was picking up my dogs poop on our walk then I would be leading a pretty simple life. Plus once a dog's diet is healthy and good quality it keeps the poop smell minimal and the consistency solid.

fergiesfolly

I break it down into happiness which is fleeting and contentedness, which is more long-term.
I am content at the moment, if not happy.
I realise the my current state is not ideal, but will pass if I strive to overcome it.
I think if you can concentrate more on attaining long term contentedness, you are better able to handle short term moments of sadness.

TomSweeney

Happiness is a journey!
I'm living !

That's enough!

jester77

Dr. Zeus wrote:

.... toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or the waiting around for a Yes or No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Stop waiting, life's too bloody short

topper75

Depends if your hormones allow you to feel happy in any given moment.

Same for all people.

Danzy

Being happy all the time is as unnatural as being unhappy all the time.

There will be entire years where you'll be either unhappy or just plodding along.

It's often the things that are not immediately happy or have nothing about them that are the worthwhile or meaningful things in life.

Seve OB

Happiness is a cigar called Hamlet

Any minute now I expect..

biko

I am moving between contentment and happiness.
Most importantly - I am not unhappy, which is nice

Ariadne

I'm working on it. I think it's something we all have to work on.

Reminds me of this song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q9WZtxRWieM

sbsquarepants

Happiness is but a dream for me at the moment, all I know is pain and misery.

Not really, but I have a virus and feel about as unwell as I have ever felt in my entire life, so at the moment I'm just wallowing in self pity / praying for death. I should really be home in bed but my credit card took an awfull beating over Christmas so I have to soldier on for the almighty dollar.

If it wasn't for that I'd be a perfectly happy little bunny.

Seve OB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMD_SWtPzlk

Seve OB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PKyuistISkY

Seve OB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3g6GDat1zFg

Seve OB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BVKv_IQB4mw

Seve OB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIckHmwZAeI

MPFGLB

THose adverts were so amasing ....anyone who saw them and the tagline never forgot them ...now that is advertising


I dont remember who said it but someone said a man is about as happy as he makes his mind up to be. There is alot of truth in that ..and where you are and what you are doing has little to do with it. Alot of people worry about the future or obsess about the past but all is an illusion. We only have the hear and now ..live in the now and be grateful for that and you are along way towards happiness

Now on the other hand if you are striving for something better or bigger ..to be somewhere else or have something else you may have goals and plans but you wont always be happy...not even when you get what you wanted

Seve OB

last one is gold

mad muffin

I’m waiting to die. I don’t have dreams. In my sleep or in life…

Almost been too happy for too long now for some reason or other. Starting to get paranoid that credit is going to run out and things are going to go entirely awry. But I guess that has to happen for most of us eventually. I did have a small issue with burnout some months back but I think I dealt with it.

ArchXStanton

Put it this way, I could be depressed if I wanted to be

Vela

Happiness is found in moments. I don't think it's a constant state of being and anyone who says it is, is lying to themselves or everyone else IMO. The journey is in finding and creating enough of those moments to get you through the tougher times.

Vela

Vela wrote: »

Happiness is found in moments. I don't think it's a constant state of being and anyone who says it is, is lying to themselves or everyone else IMO. The journey is in finding and creating enough of those moments to get you through the tougher times.

Only this week there was a conversation released with Sam Harris and Stephen Fry discussing that very thing for much or most of it. Is it possible to be happy all the time or to find it even in moments when we are not happy.

Harris was coming from the perspective that it is quite possible indeed. Fry was coming from the position of accepting that - with some level of scepticism - but also questioning whether we would want it even if we could - because he thinks the Apollonian and Dionysian dichotomy inside us gives us much of our identity.

I think they both have points and make them beautifully - as they are both wont to do with their mutual mastery of the English Language - but I certainly know from my own Harris like training that it is possible to get outside that human dynamic of always wanting to keep hold of the pleasure or always wanting the next happy moment to come along - and to simply be happy and content in the moment for very long stretches of time.

I certainly do not remember at this time any moment in the last 5 or 10 years that I would describe as unhappy or upset or angry or even all that annoyed really. I am strangely abundently happy pretty much nearly all of the time at present and mildly content the rest of it.

But I do find some doubt creeping in of late that this can continue forever. So the best I can do is prepare for the worst and enjoy the best.

Greengrant

I think the most important thing is to be present and enjoy the moment, you'll experience a range of emotions, but presence makes all of the emotions easiet to handle.

The Tetrarch

Kevin Finnerty wrote: »

Until they dump on the path and you've got to get down there with a bag in one hand and holding your nose with the other because you can actually see the smell rising up to meet you.

And why do they dogs do a slimy poo in long wet grass?
I am happy enough. When very happy I know it is temporary.

Outlaw Pete

Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

PARlance

Sees thread title
Remembers this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJDFZCY14Ug

Happier

klm1

I'd say I'm happy, for the first time in my life. Which at mid 40's feels like a long wait.

The Tetrarch

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3BK5PvIYEMA

Princess of Wales Stakes (Group 2), Newmarket, July 5, 1988 (my birthday).
The mare is Percy's Lass, who had a baby named Sir Percy, who won the English Derby in 2006 (and I backed it at 16/1 for 7k).
Was I happy? Was I ****.

mzungu

Like most things, it's a work in progress.

Just get out of that jam OP!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Df1z0XyJtGc