what is wrong with me?

biabelle

I dont know what is wrong with me, but I suddenly have no interest in dating guys or any desire to be with anyone. My last relationship ended May this year after two years, he said he didnt love me anymore. This came a few months after he coerced me into having an abortion. I met a guy three months later, started to like him then when i asked him to meet one day he ghosted me and i haven't heard from him since.
I went on a date a few weeks ago but had zero interest and havent met him since. He was a fantastic guy genuine so nice but for some reason i cant feel anything.

I met a guy at work I am starting to like, he is a good guy very very caring and has asked me out twice but I declined as I am afraid. Sometimes I want to get closer to him then I pull back and make silly excuses like do I even fancy him or what will people say etc. I know he likes me and feel he genuinely cares about me. We have spoken to each other about our parents bereavement and hes the first guy since I lost my mam I wish I could tell her about. But I feel like there is a magnet inside me pulling me back I just have no interest in dating or getting romantically involved with someone. Even when this guys says nice things I almost cringe as I dont want him to go down the "romantic"road. What is wrong with me? I am starting to worry this will be a permanent feeling

Jenneke87

Maybe you need a time-out from dating? You're only a few months out of a long term relationship with all the heartache of an abortion on top of that. Dating was the last thing on my mind after my own, so why don't you take it easy for a while? It might be better to stay single for a while until you've processed all that happend and can start again with a clean slate.

Augme

Sounds like you are interested in dating and having a relationship but are just afraid to get into one in case you get hurt again.

Jurgen Klopp

Your just burned of it all, especially having a bad and disappointing run with the last few fellas.

I'm a man who thankfully had an amicable breakup with my last ex and was delighted be out of a relationship and that was years back and it's only lately I'm feeling like I wouldn't mind meeting someone again

So don't stress yourself lass

witchgirl26

There is nothing wrong with you. You've had a bad time with your ex and then the ghosting not to mention the abortion and losing your mam (if I read that correctly that its recent enough).

You might just need sometime to heal a bit and not wanting to jump into a relationship, even with a great guy, isn't odd. It's probably quite normal and completely understandable.

Ursus Horribilis

You posted before, didn't you? The bit about losing your mum, being coerced into having an abortion you wouldn't have otherwise have had and then your boyfriend dumping you sounds familiar. I don't think there is anything wrong with you but think you could do with taking a step back from dating for now.

You've been through the mill in quite a short space of time. You had two significant bereavements in your life (your mum and your baby) and were let down very badly by your boyfriend. Any one of those events on their own takes a lot of processing. Dealing with all three is a completely different ball game. Is there any chance that your eagerness to get back into the dating game is so you can drown out your pain and loneliness? Everybody grieves at their own pace but maybe all of this is happening too soon for you. You're not ready to date again and this "magnet" is a way of telling you that you've got enough on your plate for now.